Relationships are not laboratory experiments we casually go into to see if it can work out

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Relationships are not laboratory experiments we casually go into to see if it can work out. The dangers associated with it not working out are enormous and sometimes damaging to a life almost beyond repairs.

It's best to cage your emotions and build friendship with the 'suspect' until certainty is firmly established and marriage is now in view...

And if the other party has become emotional, do not reciprocate if it's out of pity. The foundation upon which your emotions are established determines the longevity of the relationship (and even marriage).

Emotional Love ought not to be forced out, it should flow naturally. If it doesn't flow naturally for him/her, it's a pointer that it may be meant for another or probably the timing is wrong.

By: Abeyi Kingsley Onoriode

Welcome to the Blog. I love Positivity. I love sharing Positivity. I encourage You to always be Positive. Positivity pays. It's what we all need to achieve both personal and cooperate Success and Fulfillment. Develop a Positive Mindset. Build Positive Relationships. Have an open mind to Learn and Improve. Always seek to grow and be the best available Version of Yourself. Always Believe that You CAN!

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