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I am a member of "The Let's Talk About Series" community. I'll be sharing notes from one of the sessions we had last year December, over a month ago. The session was on Finishing 2018 Stronger, by Tobi Afolabi (TA Speaks), the pioneer of the Let's Talk About Series. ––––– Tobi Afolabi (taspeaks) speaking: Today, we will be discussing: finishing 2018 stronger. Looking at such topic, I am sure a number of us have so many thoughts going through our minds. 2017 has been a fantastic year for me. I hope it has been for you too. I've had lots of successes, challenges, failures (lessons learnt)...  I'm so eager and anticipating what 2018 holds for me, like I am guessing you feel same way. We honestly can't talk about finish 2018 stronger and more fulfilled than this year without looking first at how we have fared this year. What goals were we able to accomplish? What challenges did we encounter? What do we wish we could have done differently? Significanc...

"Leaders must be good managers, but most managers are not necessarily good leaders". TOM MULLINS. "Leadership is influence " JOHN. C. MAXWELL. Becky Brodin said, "Leadership is not wielding authority – it's empowering people". The most effective leadership is by example, not edict. A leader is one who guides and develops the activities of others and seeks to provide continual training and direction. Leadership is an awesome responsibility. Leadership is a trust conferred upon by others. To earn this trust, you must be true to yourself. Leadership development is a lifetime journey, not a brief trip. Leadership emerges in response to situations that require the very best you have to offer. Brain Tracy said, "The ability to make decisions and act boldly in face of setbacks and adversity is the key to greatness in leadership". John Hagai said, "Leadership is the discipline of deliberately exerting special influence within a group to...

Each time I hear things like the young people should be given a chance to lead, I laugh. I know we still have very good and competent young people that can be agents of transformation but they are in the tiniest minority. So many are quick to use the arguments of our past leaders attaining positions of leadership at very young ages, true but you must realise that they got there not because of their competency but because they were lucky to be among a few that were a bit enlightened in the wake of transition from the colonial era. There was an immediate need to transfer responsibility of leadership to any indigenous person that had some level of education but not because of their ingenuity. From my judgement, they were average and had not passed the mediocrity mark of which I will say they are the reason for our current predicaments. If truly they were competent enough, they would have been visionary and futuristic in their policies and programmes. They would have known population wou...

While I frown vehemently at the manner and the open attitudinal disposition that is on the increase regarding issues pertaining to religion, faith and politics, I think there is a huge lesson there for all of us. The difference between a developing country and a so called "Developed one" is simple – TRANSFORMATION. This very all important process borders from generation of ideas down to the productizing of the same, alongside it's sustainability. Most developing countries have issues with either of the three stages. In fact, one of the definitions I read sometime ago on third world Country has it that: "It is when the said country does not have the capacity to manage its resources from the raw primary stage to the sophisticated processed stage". So here is the gist. I have read over 120 books on Transformation alone whether mental, spiritual, political, social or business, including doing a several cover to cover on the best of them all ...

George Weah of Liberia, first sought for the Liberian Presidency in 2005, then aged 39. He failed. He obtained his SSCE (Senior School Certificate) in 2006, at age 40. He obtained his degree in 2011, at age 45, and Masters in 2013, at age 47. He won election to the Liberian Senate in 2014, at age 48. He has just been declared the Country's President (2017, aged 51) All these within 12 years interval. You're not too old to be a Success! Or in his case, becoming even more Successful after a Success! By: Jude Onyekachukwu Igwe

Most of you so-called Christians claim to know so much of the Scripture with stock of Bible verses as memory verses; yet know so little of Politics and Socio-economic order in your Respective states, County or Country at large. Discuss the terrains of politics with most Christians and the typical response will be; "Politics is a dirty Game. Let's Pray God save our Nation". They get so "Religious" when political issues are raised. If you are waiting for God to come down and salvage the Nation by being "Religious", it'll never happen. If Religion is the solution to Nations' mishaps, don't we practice Religion in Nigeria more than the Chinese? Africa Alone has highest population of renowned Christian Leaders yet, with all these, China is growing rapidly in economy and otherwise. The World's Richest Countries are Muslim States. How many Christians here are aware of the United Nation's Decision against Trump recognition of Jerusalem as...

A few days ago, I found myself in a work space where I had to negotiate for a deal with an organization. I was welcomed warmly. As I walked down to the appointed office, I was concerned by the facial expression of one of the employees as we moved in opposite directions. He muttered words in complaint with face bowed to the ground as He had received a portion of the managers venom for not meeting up with the required task. He pronounced a few challenges before him to another coworker as they moved to resume duty. He muttered the sleepless nights his family has faced because of their sick child and how this has drained his finances. The manager at his end was still expressing his displeasure until he got a sight of me. I was immediately seated with Him and we chatted for about 5 minutes before we commenced the business of the day. We talked about family, business and government. Though I was surprised at the immediate change of mood. Alas; I am the ideal client; "the one who m...

I am a member of "The Let's Talk About Series" community. I'll be sharing notes from one of the sessions we had this year. The session was on Fela Durotoye. This session and a major part of the notes you'll read below, was contributed by Tobi Afolabi (TA Speaks), the pioneer of the Let's Talk About Series. ---------- Let's talk about Fela Durotoye – Why he started his initiative (find out the name and focus) – Passion and interest – His leadership style and attitude – His legacies and values that he holds dear which you will like to imbibe – Major take away from the discussion of the personality ----- Who is Fela Durotoye? Fela Durotoye is the Chief Executive Officer of the GEMSTONE Group, a leadership development institution with a distinct mandate to raise a Generation of leaders that are Empowered, Motivated and Stirred To Operate with Natural Excellence (GEMSTONE). Fela has a Bachelor of Science Degree (B.Sc) in Computer Science with Econom...

I am a member of "The Let's Talk About Series" community. I'll be sharing notes from one of the sessions held earlier this year, on Developing a Personal Career Pathway by Samuel Akinlotan. ---------- Samuel Akinlotan : Whether you want to run your own company or snag the corner office at your current job, you probably have an end-goal for your career. But do you really know what you need to do to get there? It's important for people to see the steps that are actually involved in having a successful career in whatever profession and industry they choose. I hear so many graduates and professionals say things like, 'I want to be a financial analyst' or 'I want to be an HR Professional'. The truth is that so many of us are often carried away by the enthusiasm and optimism of some professions which often leave us blind to long term career planning. Things don't just happen, you make them happen. This leads to our conversation today on Develop...

I am a member of "The Let's Talk About Series" community. I'll be sharing notes from one of the sessions we had this year. The session was on Bimpe Bamgbose-Martins. A major part of the notes you'll read below, was contributed by Tobi Afolabi (TA Speaks), the pioneer of the Let's Talk About Series. ---------- – Biography of Mrs Bimpe Bamgbose-Martins – Why she started her initiative (find out the name and focus) – Passion and interest – Her leadership style and attitude – Her legacies and values she holds dear which you will like to imbibe. – Major take away from the discussion of the personality. ----- Bimpe Bamgbose-Martins is an alumni of Harvard University, John F. Kennedy School of Government, United States of America. An astute trainer, learning and development professional. Bimpe is an Associate Member of the Chartered Institute of Personnel Development (CIPD), United Kingdom. She is a member of the Board of Trustees and the Regional Ambassado...

I am a member of "The Let's Talk About Series" community. I'll be sharing notes from one of the sessions held earlier this year, on Emotional Intelligence (E.I) by Agbo Eje Ojobo. ---------- Agbo Eje Ojobo : I help people overcome obstacles holding them, so they can take their lives, GOALS and RESULTS to the NEXT LEVEL. This is done by Private Coaching and Therapy, Corporate Training and Consulting. I am honoured to be sharing with you today. The session is practical, containing instructions and applicable steps. Pay attention and you will find how to apply these to your life, relationship, work, business and even behaviour. Emotion is a person's internal state of being and involuntary physiological response to an object or a situation, based on or tied to physical state and sensory data. Intelligence is the Capacity of mind, especially to understand principles, truths, facts or meanings, acquire knowledge, and apply it to practice; the ability to learn a...