Positive Life & Relationship Blog

You may come across a good person, a sincere lover, who's interested in you, but you're not ready at that moment, and end up losing him to someone else who's ready.. You're not ready because of the negative configuration that your past relationship(s) has created for your mind and it really shows in your attitude (I personally always detect it no matter how much you try to hide it). You have to take responsibility for the outcomes of your past relationships. And by this, you take POSITIVE actions not to be a victim of such again. Look into yourself critically, you'll see the wrong choices you made that led to the failed relationship(s). Learn from it, and make a wiser choice when someone comes seeking your attention. Understand what you NEED (pay less attention to your wants) and be the person that will complement the person you need by developing yourself and working on your limitations gradually. If you'll say that it's difficult to know who's true, I...

When a woman is loved properly, all the joy that was stolen from her will return. The giant within her will awaken. She will find everything she thought was lost. The missing pieces of her life will suddenly appear. All the pain she has been through will make sense to her. She will finally be free to create the magic that was always in her heart. Her fire will burn brighter than the sun and all those who wrote her off will stare in astonishment from afar. By: Uchenna Ilo

Some people will come into your life looking as if they are the real deal. Their attributes will tick all the right boxes in your checklist. Your relationship will start with such an intensity that you will believe they were sent from heaven. From this high tension love, your relationship immediately descends to the lows of depression, quarreling and anger. The fluctuations are more dizzying than roller-coaster rides. Gradually, they will begin to show their true colors and you will have to decide whether to leave or stay and try to fix them. If you don't open your inner eyes, you will fall into the oldest trap of the flesh. Your flesh desires them but your soul knows better. Remember all your sufferings and let the wisdom of pain be your guide. All that glitters is not gold and there is no substitute for inner peace. If you remain humble and kind, one day someone will appear from nowhere in the most unusual of circumstances when you least expect it to return all the love you lost ...

Samuel was done playing games. He finally proposed. He knew she would say Yes. She would. She loved him too much. She had asked him severally, jokingly, when he would ask her out. She had turned down many suitors for his sake. She loved even the ground he walked on, but he just wasn't interested in her. He was actually but he wanted to sow his wild oats. He thought she was going to be around forever. Now he is ready. He is tired of the games and wanted to settle down. Her reply came like a gunshot.. You know that thing that goes skrrrrrrrrri, ehen, you don't know, the thing went skrrrrrrrrri laidat, "I am no longer interested in a Relationship with you, Sam. Truth be told, I have found somebody that loves me, and I love him too. I'm over you". The look on his face could have rivaled that of Medusa the gorgon. He never thought that could happen. He never expected that Jane would one day overcome her feelings for him. He had always ignored her, because she love...

It's easy to say we are loving when everything seems otherwise okay. But the depth of our love for others becomes tested when the conditions around us does not warrant our loving them at all. Showing love here is really difficult and very straining. If you can still love when you're hurt, betrayed, angered, irritated or falsely accused by others, then we can know that you truly love. So let's stop professing love to people like it's really deep in us. Let's show it by our words and actions in times when we're tempted to hate them. Only God can help us truly love people. By: Abeyi Kingsley Onoriode

Hello Somebody! I believe you're doing great? And hope the week has been a positive one too? Just wanna drop these quotes for you. It's a Love and Relationship Something. You'll definitely find them helpful. Share with your friends too, and help bless a soul. It's a month of Love, so we've gotta keep the Love alive! Enjoy! ----- Relationships are mysterious. We doubt the positive qualities in others, seldom the negative. You will say to your partner: do you really love me? Are you sure you love me? You will ask this a dozen times and drive the person nuts. But you never ask: are you really mad at me? Are you sure you’re angry? When someone is angry, you don’t doubt it for a moment. Yet the reverse should be true. We should doubt the negative in life, and have faith in the positive. – Christopher Pike ----- When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that ...

Helloooo! January was "a very long month", it felt like a year, right? Lol. Anyway, it's gone and February is here. Welcome to the Month of Love. I wish you the very best for this month! I hope you made great use of January? You must have taken some few steps closer to that goal. Congrats on that! This month, keep that Spirit Alive! Keep hitting those targets! Keep up with that mental growth! God bless the month of February. Amen! ––––– “The Month of Love Challenge” must have caught your attention. Let's talk about it. February is the Month of Love. At the middle of the month is Valentine day's (Feb 14), and this must have contributed in giving the theme of Love to this month. In the Spirit of Love and Positivity, the Love and Positivity Initiative (LPI) will be taking up a Challenge for this month. This Challenge is aimed on encouraging and promoting Love and Positive Relationships. It's a WhatsApp Challenge, but it's not restricted to...

You see that thing you call Generational Curse??? It is more "mental" than it is "diabolical". Just as offsprings inherit some disease conditions from their parents after an intercourse, so your children inherit limitations unknown to you, when you share that limiting belief story – When you mostly share the hard part of situations with them all in the bid for you to help them develop "character";  when you are always against them taking risk; when you impose the dream in your head on them without giving room for their passion; when you use all manner of negative words on them especially when they make mistakes all in the name of "Correction". Yeah.... that is when they are really cursed generationally. Most importantly when you give all your Golden most treasured all important advice to them only from the context of the olden times, culture or religion (though very important) without a look at the contemporary times... Yeah.., that is when t...

There are more books, seminars, talks and teachings on marriage than in the past, yet our parents still enjoy(ed) a better marital experience than we do. There are better holiday resorts, improvement in services, better therapists including sex therapists, breakthroughs in the sciences and psychological studies of relationships, yet intimacy has reduced among couples. Our parents still enjoy(ed) better intimacy than we do. There is knowledge now on relationship and marriage; an average single have read at least a book on this subject, watched a movie, attended a training and even places of worship have made it an integral part of their youth and singles ministry yet divorce is on the increase. There is better education, especially women have gotten more education, longer courtship and dating, even plenty testings (plenty relationships), yet blissful marital experience is on the decline. Plenty boss ladies and boss men, more money and packaging, more beauty tools and sexy designs, p...

Yesterday night (the night before the day this was written), I was having a nap, at the NIFES UNIPORT President's office, when Brother Daniel came to me and said: “Sir, we have a new person, he is stranded. And he needs a place to lodge for the night”. I was tired. I told him; “See to it that he finds rest”. Then he replied me: “he is a Muslim”. I said to him again; “that is not a problem. Just ask him basic information and tell him the etiquette of the secretariat. Also do a security check”. This is the normal pocedure for any one who comes around, because many have come in such way and at midnight they stole something. Then, I zoomed, off to sleep. This morning (on the day this was written), at 4.25 AM, when we do have our normal devotion, we had a full house. There were several persons who have not been allocated a hostel space, some also who are coming to UNIPORT for the first time and needed to find a place to rest. And some who are not bothered...

They tell you hate is a strong emotion, perhaps fiercer than love. But they leave out the crucial details. Like, how it is also the deadliest disease in existence, eating away at your innards until what's left is an empty, deformed shell. And how, unlike its polar opposite whose object of affection gets to enjoy (or endure) the fruits of whatever intense passion it projects, the cross is all yours to bear. I hated once. She'd been a loved one, despite the imperfections on both our parts. It wasn't the first betrayal I'd experienced in friendship neither was it the most dramatic. But for some reason, this one cut the deepest. In no time, the hurt transformed into something darker. We still spoke but inside, I was black ice. With each smile I sent her way, the rage brewing behind my eyes got stronger. Sometimes, my body temperature bespoke what I felt. I'd be burning hot with cold hands. I realized I was afraid of me. Of what I was becoming. You can...

How about a boyfriend that will tell you to study? Tell you to dress properly? A boyfriend who will hold hands with you and declare Gods promises. Who'll plan the future with you?? Who asks if you've eaten because he really cares not just because it's a regular question. Who surprises you with reasonable gifts?? Who'll crackup their savings to buy you medications when you're sick? Who would never speak to you in a manner unfit for a woman he claims to LOVE?? But no! You want guys with iPhones, nice cars, and nice Instagram pages who you have no idea how they struggle. And you wonder why it never works.. Same procedure never gives a different result. By: Kelly Chisom Amadi

Successful relationships require so much empathy, understanding, and soft-handling. You always have to remember that you are dealing with a different person who has had a different upbringing and who has undergone their own unique suffering. Everyone is meant to be loved in their own unique way, according to their particular design. If you want to love somebody successfully, you will have to observe and understand how best to love the person. This is important because true healing will be evasive unless the right type of love is administered. Everybody is broken and love is the only known cure of heartbreaks and emotional devastation. The aim is to create a fulfilled partnership that brings peace to your individual souls and to the world at large. We are on this journey together and nobody is to be left behind. We are different, but yet, we are the same. When two lonely weirdos fall in love, they never get out alive. By: Uchenna Ilo

I got these lines from a wise man... Let me paraphrase; "Men are givers while women are receivers, incubators and producers.." Let's explain... If a man gives a woman a sperm, she receives it, incubates it and produces a baby for him. If he gives a woman a house, she transforms it and gives him a home. If he gives her money, she uses it to put food on his table. If he gives her love and care, she receives it, incubates it and pours it back on him in ten folds. And if he gives her hostility, she receives it all too well and gives him back a war. In many cases, a man is the primary determinant of the state of joy or gloom of his dear spouse. A woman is like a rose. If we treat them with gentleness and humility, they bloom to our very delight. If you have a spouse, treat her like a rose or like a pearl of great value. (Ephesians 4:1-3) By: Abeyi Kingsley Onoriode

As men, it's natural to be protective and want to impose our will and choices on someone we love. Most times it's not a show of ego and superiority. It's just a strong instinctive desire to wanna protect her, feeling we know better and understand better. But trust me.. Most times you have to say yes to her personal wishes and allow her make some choices of her own. And even when She makes mistakes, be there to pick her up and keep her pride. Don't jump at saying "I told you so". By: Kelly Chisom Amadi

(Part 1) "I think my husband is cheating on me" Eukera informs her baby Sister. "How do you know, or did he confess this himself?" Esther asks as she returns to the sitting room with a tray containing fruits.. She always entertains her Sister this way. "I know it, I'm not a baby you know. I will find that lady who has the guts to go out with my husband, and when I do.. Oh Lord, Oh Jehovah, She will regret ever being born", Eukera answers as she bites into an apple she had just taken off the tray her sister had brought. "I will recommend you do not conclude based on just a hunch. If he is really cheating on you, we will find out one day. I personally will get him arrested and dealt with. As for the lady, let me not even say anything". "Hahahaha, I trust you, but that won't be necessary. I can handle this. Thanks Sis". Just then, Eukera's phone rings. It's a call from her office. She grabs another apple, hurriedly g...

I understand that watching your child grow might seem cute initially, but then, it gets kinda complicated. Your little boy begins to sit, stand, walk, now he is bouncing, flinging car keys... Your girl runs to You when she sees You returning from work, shouting "Daddy", then to her just saying "Welcome", and then to making long calls with someone else, giggling so happily.. Soon enough, You will hear one dude saying he has seen a flower to be plucked... Your girl is leaving... At a point in time, our kids will grow or have grown. Can we trust in the work we are doing now or in the work we have done already to see them through life? Can we respect their choices and allow them be and show what we have put in them? The funny thing is that some parents hardly recognise the good in their kids. They just need to find a fault. A grown ass young son is a minister in a Church; a Parent faults him simply because it's not their own Church, or for some other reasons. H...

If You are determined to achieve something, nothing and nobody can stop you except your very own self. If you truly want to find love, you must be ready to weather all the storms and temptations that come with the process. You must be wise enough to identify time-wasters, broken enough to know when someone isn't ready for you, and patient enough to wait for the one whose soul complements your own. When you finally realise who you are, you will have to shed the excess weight that has held you bondage for all these years. The baggage we carry are programmes imposed by the world on every newborn baby and is reinforced till they become adults. Question everything that you have been taught and question your own questions. If you are determined to make a change, you will have to endure the pains that comes with resetting your belief system and your usual way of thinking and acting. This process will shake your soul to its very core and leave you completely empty with nowhere to go and ...

Do not for the fear of losing a friend, fail to point them to some destiny stunting decisions they make out of a short sighted vision of LIFE, if they seek your opinion or you have a strong conviction to call their attention. It is quite tough to point out or shed light on a behavioural pattern which limits a friend – to a friend, yeah; but it is necessary, if you are opportune to. Many of my friends have asked me, how do you cope with academics, finance, family, and God, and even the opposite sex?... When I tell them the truth, they seem to run away. First things first. I asked them what their priority is, which for me is the absolute love for God and His ways, and they find expressions in everything I do: academics, finance, family and the opposite sex... and how honest I am with myself. Do not fear to shed off some people. It is necessary. Do not fear about being yourself when you stay with friends. A responsible person respects you for being yourself. And nobody has become bette...

Whether You are a female or male, You don't go into a relationship because of what You can get but because of what You can give. True love is not about what You can get from the other person, but about what You can add and make out of the life of the other person. True love must not be parasitic. True love must never be one-sided. A parasitic relationship is an unhealthy relationship. If he takes You out, You also take him out once in a while. If he buys You stuff and gives You gifts, do the same. That is true love. Give and continue to give. Give your prayers, time, obedience, support, respect, money, coolheadedness, understanding, smiles, laugh, humility, loyalty, gentleness, counsels etc. Give and continue to give. That is true love! By: Olusola Opeyemi