When Are You Getting Married?

I was with my parents over the weekend. It was a great time with them. Our conversations especially when I am about leaving them after a visit will end with a prayer.
But this time a good part of the conversation centered on marriage and so was about 86% of the prayer on getting married from the right family and settling down well....hmmm.

You see, we all have this almighty question to answer now and then. In fact, life in Nigeria is ideally viewed in a particular cycle –

Birth - Go to School - Graduate from University - National Youth Service - Work or Business - Marriage and Children, and then Work, Work, Business, Business - Raise Children - Work, Work, Business, Business - Death.

I hope you can relate with that cycle.
When you are done, your children obviously will continue with the next cycle starting from where you started.

Sometimes the Question, "when are you getting Married?" put lots of people under pressure.

The second pressure after this is the pressure to do a societal wedding or the best glamorous wedding people in your circle have ever seen.

So,

1. Some guys are pressured to borrow and do the wedding to impress and afterwards the young family spend their early months or years settling debts.

2. The guy hurries to marry a lady he is yet to really know. The question again is how much can you really know someone? At least to the extent that you will not need a new introduction to your wife or husband after two weeks. Like "hi, this is my real me, the real spouse you married - forget about all those drama you saw before the wedding" #Speechless.

3. The lady lets him in, into the part of her that was meant to be reserved in a bid to make sure that doesn't delay the wedding. *You know what I mean.

4. The lady starts moving from one prayer house to the other in search for marital breakthrough.

5. The lady stops attending weddings only if compulsory. Because she wants to avoid that question that will likely come from an acquaintance. "Ehhen... Bukky, when are we coming for your own?"

The list continues...

Marriage is a good thing, and marrying early with a peaceful home afterwards is a great blessing. But while under the pressure, remember:

1. After the wedding, you will likely struggle to settle the debts alone. Them go just chop the rice, and do selfie with your magnificent reception venue and carry their bag go house.

2. You will be the first to reap the fruits of any decision you make concerning your future spouse – whether good or bad.
All the people advising you to do, do, do – may not be there afterwards. Some of them will just go go go.

3. Do your wedding according to the resources God has made available. Impress your wife afterwards at home. Don't give everybody fried rice during the wedding and sip garri two weeks latter.

4. Your prospective marital relationship should not sabotage your values. Don't compromise your godly values because of the pressure of loosing him.

5. You see, enjoy your life every inch. Don't let anybody make mockery of your single life. Go to events if you have to. The question, "When are your getting married?" will come, and when it does, just smile and say "Very Soon". Is it not that simple? #Smiles
Avoiding public appearance is not a solution. Who knows if he or she will be found in your next public appearance.

Enjoy your life, and appreciate God for every phase.

Ermm....My parents are still expectant and I won't fall their hands.

TJ William
Sapient Advisor
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By: TJ William