Start with Self Love

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First and foremost, how do you love others when you do not love yourself? You will always spill your hate or love for yourself into the way you treat others ultimately. Kid yourself not!

Secondly, how do you expect others to love you when you barely love yourself? You hate your height, you want her to love you for it? Or is it after you hate your height, you then want to love a person with same height? You must be confused!

You hate your size, and you want him to love you like that? You hate your looks, YOU HATE YOU, BUT YOU WANT ME TO LOVE YOU? How am I going to pull that off? I CAN ACTUALLY TRY, but truth is, the love you have for yourself or your hate of yourself is contagious. Like flu, it is soon passed on to those around you.

When you do not like yourself, you will always have issues with people who love you, or people who love you will always have issues with you, you will either scare them off or they will scare you off.

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Look at this:

John: Jane, you look beautiful today.

Jane: please, don't even start. There's nothing beautiful about me - today, tomorrow or ever. Please, just leave me alone, don't patronize me.

John: But you look beautiful to me.

Jane: Drop it, please. I don't want to hear about a beauty that you have cooked up just to make me feel good, I know I am not beautiful, don't flatter me.

John: Okay then, it's alright, you are not beautiful.

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John really thinks Jane is beautiful, but pretty soon, he will soon start seeing the ugliness in her, that she sees in herself; because she always reminds him of the ugliness he is trying to or has succeeded in looking past, and soon he will get tired and just give up all together.

Self love is the first love You must feel in life. You will never truly experience love till you have experienced self love.

Jesus said: "Love your neighbor as YOURSELF".
How dare you love others and not love yourself?
The way you love celebrities, love your mentors, your pastors, your friends, those you admire; You should love yourself in the same way, take care of yourself, value yourself, be proud of who you are and what you can do, be happy to be you; and then in that same way you love yourself, you can love others.

There will always be a relationship between how you love yourself, how you love others, and how others will love you. It all starts with self love!

Love yourself - tall, short, slim, fat, fair, dark, handsome or not handsome...

Musa Gift thinks dogs are cute, but Omeike Udochi Adachuks isn't a great fan of them. Lisa Okpara doesn't like cats while there are people who love snakes and keep them as pets..
That is just life. Relax, for every one person that dislikes you, five more persons admire and like you, and if no one loves you, God loves You.

Start falling in love with You from today.
Love Yourself or Hate Yourself, whichever you do, You lead the way.. others will follow.

Musa Gift (MG)

Welcome to the Blog. I love Positivity. I love sharing Positivity. I encourage You to always be Positive. Positivity pays. It's what we all need to achieve both personal and cooperate Success and Fulfillment. Develop a Positive Mindset. Build Positive Relationships. Have an open mind to Learn and Improve. Always seek to grow and be the best available Version of Yourself. Always Believe that You CAN!

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  1. Nibana Life21 November 2025 at 10:14

    I really appreciated this post. You explained so clearly why self-love is the starting point for every other kind of love. The examples you gave, especially the one with John and Jane, really show how the way we see ourselves can shape how others relate to us. It’s so true that when you don’t value yourself, it becomes hard to believe anyone else truly can.

    I’ve been learning similar lessons while following Nibana Life Coach in London, and your words reminded me how important it is to treat yourself with kindness and respect first. When you change the way you speak to yourself, everything around you slowly begins to change too.

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