Deal with the past and let it be past

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In the name of being scared of getting hurt again, I formed a terrible defensive mechanism that only made it possible for insecurity to plague my mind more and more.
Now, I have a friend who in d name of not getting hurt again developed a nice but subtly dangerous defensive mechanism of maintaining a neutral mind and not committing totally to any relationship.

These two types of metaplastic changes in one's heart condition as a result of previously broken relationships are terrible strongholds that if not dealt with hinders the enjoyment of a relationship that could otherwise have been blissful.

Stop allowing the hurts of the past hinder you from enjoying the beauty of a genuine relationship today, all in name of being scared of getting hurt again.

Abeyi Kingsley Onoriode

Welcome to the Blog. I love Positivity. I love sharing Positivity. I encourage You to always be Positive. Positivity pays. It's what we all need to achieve both personal and cooperate Success and Fulfillment. Develop a Positive Mindset. Build Positive Relationships. Have an open mind to Learn and Improve. Always seek to grow and be the best available Version of Yourself. Always Believe that You CAN!

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