Two Choices

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Life is full of ups and downs. When we fall, we are tempted not to get up because of the uncertainties we don't want to confront. When we stay down, we don't accomplish anything, and we feel worse.
But when clean our eyes, dust ourselves up, get up and follow the light or hope, no matter how small it is, we'll surely feel better and fulfilled. Trust me.

So I leave you with two choices:

- Stay down, casted and blame those that hurt you, thereby giving them control over your life.
- Leave it all behind, learn from your mistakes, look forward and find happiness.

Stay Positive!

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