Right things done at wrong times, makes them Wrong

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The Lady: I've been dating this guy for more than four years now. There is nothing couples are doing in marriage that we have not done. We've lived together, ate together, bath together. I've had three abortions for him. We've had business ventures together. There is nothing couples are doing that we are not doing, Sir.

Me: So what do you both have left that you want to do in marriage if you get married today?

The Lady: Sir, just two things left.

Me: Tell me those two things.

The Lady: To have kids, and to fight.

Me: Fight as how?

The Lady: We have never fought before. I do bottle up my anger because I have lost so much in the relationship. If I leave him, I will be at the losing end.
But when we get married, he will know that he married a lioness. I am battle ready for him.

This conversation ain't fictional. It's real.

A lot of unmarried guys and ladies don't understand the whole lot of difference between single relationships and marriage.

Some persons don't have anything tangible they are going to do in marriage, than to have kids. All the privileges, uniqueness, sacredness, sanctity, enjoyments of marriage - they are already exploring and enjoying it now in their dating adventure.

Lady, you have turned yourself to 'IYAWO ILE' in the 'face me I face you' apartment of that guy. You are his cook, his mom, his bed mate, sex mate. You've moved your loads to his room one by one. You're all over him, showing desperation.

Dear Guy, what exactly are you looking forward to do in marriage? You are already acting as a husband to that lady. You're tired of her nakedness already. Nothing excites you about her again. 'See finish' is happening between the two of you. If you marry today, what's going to be a new thing to do as couples?

This is one of the reasons why guys dump ladies they date before marriage. Some desire someone new.

Kissing is no more new to the both of you. Your nakedness is no more new to the both of you.

Maybe, like the lady in the conversation, the only two things left for many singles in relationship today, is to have children and fight.

Some will see wrong things the person is doing that they don't subscribe to, but they will keep quiet and bottle it up. They won't fight and sought it out now. They are waiting to get into marriage and then start the fight. They prefer to enjoy the 'peace' of marriage in dating, and then get into marriage and start the war.

Dear Singles, don't cross some lines. You are not married until you are married! Reserve romance, sex, physical intimacy, joint account, bathing together, wearing the same clothes, and many other things for marriage. There should be some exciting things you are looking forward to doing together as couples. Don't do everything you should do in marriage in your courtship. Have self control. Right things done at the wrong times will make them wrong things!

Thanks for reading and do feel free to share with a single.

Rachael Macpepple

Welcome to the Blog. I love Positivity. I love sharing Positivity. I encourage You to always be Positive. Positivity pays. It's what we all need to achieve both personal and cooperate Success and Fulfillment. Develop a Positive Mindset. Build Positive Relationships. Have an open mind to Learn and Improve. Always seek to grow and be the best available Version of Yourself. Always Believe that You CAN!

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