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Her : I cannot marry a man who does not have a car, or his own house . Me : Do you have a Car? Her : No . Me : Do you have a house? Her : No . Me : We too, we cannot marry a woman that does not have a car, or her own house. ----- Who ever told us that it is the man who should make the money, while the lady spends the money? Who ever told us that the lady must depend on a man to be financially fulfilled in life, who? This mentality has made many ladies lazy, and under productive, many are performing below their real potential because they have been told that it's the man's sole responsibility to provide for the home, making ladies look like commodities, paid for, waiting for the highest bidder, which is quite a tragedy. Funny how some ladies lower the standards for themselves and raise it up for men when it comes to marriage and providing financially, yet shout gender equality, of course I am not speaking against gender equality, I'm just saying. You see a lady d...

What makes Love beautiful is it's ability to look beyond flaws. These flaws in us makes it adventurously challenging. Whatever is not challenging gets boring too quick but then a lot of people get drenched in this feeling knowing the flaws and then try to change the other person to be more like what they were not originally. Originality is beautiful and someone who chooses to be with you, fight on the same side with you, must have seen something beautiful, peculiar about you. If they least appreciate you but try to change your natural formation and what constitute your uniqueness, identity, personality, then you don't belong with them. Love comes with submissiveness which should never be taken for stupidity or likened to outright compromise of character modification. Tripple Friddle Frizzle Tff

First and foremost, how do you love others when you do not love yourself? You will always spill your hate or love for yourself into the way you treat others ultimately. Kid yourself not! Secondly, how do you expect others to love you when you barely love yourself? You hate your height, you want her to love you for it? Or is it after you hate your height, you then want to love a person with same height? You must be confused! You hate your size, and you want him to love you like that? You hate your looks, YOU HATE YOU, BUT YOU WANT ME TO LOVE YOU? How am I going to pull that off? I CAN ACTUALLY TRY, but truth is, the love you have for yourself or your hate of yourself is contagious. Like flu, it is soon passed on to those around you. When you do not like yourself, you will always have issues with people who love you, or people who love you will always have issues with you, you will either scare them off or they will scare you off. ----- Look at this: John : Jane, you look beautiful...

In the name of being scared of getting hurt again, I formed a terrible defensive mechanism that only made it possible for insecurity to plague my mind more and more. Now, I have a friend who in d name of not getting hurt again developed a nice but subtly dangerous defensive mechanism of maintaining a neutral mind and not committing totally to any relationship. These two types of metaplastic changes in one's heart condition as a result of previously broken relationships are terrible strongholds that if not dealt with hinders the enjoyment of a relationship that could otherwise have been blissful. Stop allowing the hurts of the past hinder you from enjoying the beauty of a genuine relationship today, all in name of being scared of getting hurt again. Abeyi Kingsley Onoriode

The way you treat people is a direct reflection of the way you treat your soul. The way you feel about someone tells more about you than about the person you are judging because the feelings are triggered within you and not from the external person. I am not who you think I am; You are who You think I am. We are all mirror reflections of each other. Everybody we meet along this journey of life has come to teach us some deep lessons. The friends that bring you intense pain are your true spiritual teachers and you should be eternally grateful for them. They expose those parts of you that need healing and growth; without them, we can't evolve. Most of us still have a lot of self loving and internal healing to do. Everyone seems to be severely damaged. You won't appreciate the suffering of others if you are yet to reconcile with your own internal injuries. It is only people who recognise the goodness in themselves that have the audacity to believe that everybody can be good. As wit...

Get your partner involved in the life changing experiences you are opportune to be a part of. Grow together! So tomorrow one of you don't feel unequal and inferior to the other. Do business together. Travel together. Attend seminars together. Get involved with each others life. The reason insecurity kills most relationships is because of the unnecessary distance we create, not just physically but mentally. Kelly Chisom Amadi

"Everybody in the world is seeking happiness - and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn't depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions. It isn't why you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it. For example, two people may be in the same place, doing the same thing; both may have an equal amount of money and prestige - and yet one may be miserable and the other happy. Why? Because of a different mental attitude. I have seen just as many faces among the poor peasants toiling with their primitive tools in the devastating heat of the tropics as I have seen in air conditioned offices in New York, Chicago or Los Angeles. "There is nothing either good or bad", said Shakespeare, " but thinking makes it so"." (From Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People )

Someone asks, "What does it mean to not serve God and mammon? I'm confused. Does it mean I should not want to have money? And I should not think about it or how to get it? Or that I should live in penury? Is that what it means to not serve mammon?" My reply: "Wanting money is not same as serving Mammon. Wanting money and desiring it is very godly and indeed, noble. Money is simply a tool; same way screw driver, hammer, spoon or spanner is. However, when your desire for money comes above your desire for God's leading and direction, you have erred. When, instead of being led by God and the interests of His Kingdom, you're being led by thoughts of personal gain, you have bowed to Mammon. When, instead of you being driven by the Holy Spirit, and going by godly principles, you are driven by your desire for money and not minding the means to acquire it, Mammon has taken over. When money is the one dictating how you live your life, how you spend your time, who you...

I was going round church today (on the day this was written), giving out Sunday School manuals to those who had not yet gotten, as we give out Sunday School manuals to the students free of charge in my parish, then a lady beckons on me, "can I have one", she says. I gave her a copy, and she hands me a crispy five hundred naira note, asking me how much it costs. I smiled and inform her that it's free of charge. she was like: "wow, thank you". Then a lady close by who observed what just happened, who wasn't interested in getting a copy initially, having heard that it's free, demanded for a copy. I handed her a copy of course and then headed back to my sit. Then later in the service, it hit me... The lady who handed me the five hundred naira note, was willing to pay for a copy. Unknown to her however, it's already being paid for; on her behalf and for as many as would want a copy. If I wanted to be dubious like Judas baba or Bros Gehazi, I would take t...

Just as my friend danced to the makosa rhythm, his father landed him a slap from behind, and disciplined him severely for dancing to such tune. In a bid to get us ready for heaven, we were restricted from doing certain things. We were so scared, we would go to hell if we ever disobeyed any of the religious rules. Pathetic. Sometimes, I find it difficult to believe I can truly be festive because I grew up in religious homes and churches where dancing, jubilating and even singing in certain genre was frowned upon! We were encouraged to live a very quiet life where no one would know we ever existed! It was in a bid to get us prepared and ready for heaven! All those laughter, dance and merriment were considered the very thing that will fast track our mass exodus to hell! I remember when Paul Agubata released his song that had the makosa rhythm, it was an abomination to certain Christians. It was considered a total neglect of godliness and some even argued that the Church has suddenly al...

Man is Spirit , has a soul and lives in a body . The real man God created is the spirit, unseen and is the medium for communication with the divine. The spirit is the center of a man's faith and believe. The body is our physical being, while the soul is the center of our intelligence, emotions, values, etcetera. The spirit is very stable, and if a man is a believer, God dwells in his spirit. Only the spirit can interact with the spiritual world, but the flesh is in constant communication with the material world which transmits external impulses for the soul to interpret. The soul is sensual and emotional. If a man's spirit is fed, it controls and subdues the flesh and finally the soul, but if the flesh is fed, the soul will respond and interpret what the flesh bring as ideal. The center of our eternal battle is the soul, it is at the mercy of either the spirit or body. God and the devil, contend for the soul. Anyone that has the soul, has the whole man. Your spirit can be sa...

The key to understanding how Grace and the Law relates is simple. The law cannot be fulfilled by being under the law. It is fulfilled and surpassed, by being under grace. If I want to travel, I have to lock up my house, and it is a very big house. I have to check the gas cooker, disconnect appliances from every socket. I have to put off every switch, shut every window, and close every door. It usually takes me about an hour to do all this And on my trip, I'd be searching through my mind to see if I left anything undone. Most times, I remember a tiny window I didn't shut and just pray some rodent or serpent does not climb in during the two or three weeks I'm gone. When I get back, I check through every room to make sure all is well, before relaxing. I travel a lot, and this is my routine. It's extra stressful and imperfect, but I'm used to it. That's like being under the law. One day, a friend tells me about these modern security systems that monitor your ho...

Focus on what you eat, for you are framed by that which you ingest. What do you feed your mind on? What do you give a better part of your TIME? Man is programmed to become that which he is exposed to. How does a man who loves His wife so much turn out to be "a wife beater". How does a great personality with good leadership trait takes over a political office in Nigeria, become perverse? How does a great personality with a great vision struggle with masturbation? We have given more attention to the physical food we eat, and neglected what we feed our minds on. We have exposed our children to every kind of information from the social media, while we ensured that they stick to their food menu. You are a reflection of the quality of information at your disposal. FEED WELL. Everything matters. BODY, SOUL AND SPIRIT. MAKE IT 100% Ekwe Chijioke

Listen, no other YOU have existed on earth, none of YOU will exist after your exit. YOU are unique and let that sink into your blood - no matter the situation. Many at times, odd situations makes one ask questions like "Is this me? Am I dreaming? But the bitter truth is that challenges are there to make you stronger. Life is a school that one cannot graduate from until one leaves earth. Those challenges you face are the subjects or courses meant for you. As our faces differ, as our future differs, so does the courses we take differs. Gold becomes valuable after going through series of mining and extraction processes. Always see challenges as passage to the real you. You are YOU. The best of you is YOU. If you're not seeing it now, wait. You are still undergoing your unique mining process. Jackson Cyprian

One mistake many brands make when using social media is that they relate with the mindset of being a corporation or organization. People don't just follow organization, they follow people. Which means as an organization, there must be some warmth around your communication online. Simply humanize your content. Talk about the regular things your audience are interested in. It's them first before you. Take for instance, it's the new football season. As a brand, talk a bit around it. Generate conversation and see your audience pour their attention. Social media even though is used to generate business, the fact that it is social first should not be ignored. To get and retain the attention of your audience, let your content entertain, inform, educate or inspire your audience. Only then will they give attention to you and engage, keeping you top of mind. So, whenever it's time to buy, your name pops up in their consciousness. Have you seen a brand you love their content? ...

Let me iterate - "branding is the projection of your visions and the big picture in you. It is bringing to life, the dreams you have". How much does it cost to bring your vision to life? It boils down to how big, clear and crisp your inner pictures are. Branding is expensive only if you see it as expensive. I have seen people project their brands with less crisp graphics. I have seen people unintentionally creating the wrong narratives for their brands through branding that leaves lot to be desired. Electronic media is a game of perception, how you package yourself creates narratives in the mind of your target audience. When you consistently fail to create the right narratives, you eventually hurt your business. How much does it cost to get a crisp head shot? How much does it cost to hire the service of professionals? You don't have to break the bank give your customers the best experience. You don't have to commit too much to keep to your promises and deliver quali...

God has destined you to live in victory, but you have to do your part. Medical science tells us that people with a determined spirit usually get well quicker than people who are prone to being negative and discouraged. That's because God made us to be determined. We were not created to live in depression and defeat. A negative spirit dries up your energy. It weakens your immune system. When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, even till it seems as though you would not hold on a minute longer, never give up then! For that is the place and time your situation will change. Don't give up on your marriage. Don't give up on that wayward child. Grass is always greener at the other side. Changing your partner will not sort your problems, unless you are with the wrong partner in the first place. Always pray for your marriage because the devil hates marriage and family. Don't give up on God, because God will not give up on you. Even if people or circum...

Productivity is better than Activity and Principle is better than formula. Principles will birth productivity whereas Formulas will only produce activity. For example, It is possible to sleep four hours a day and achieve significantly less than someone who sleeps eight hours a day, while claiming anybody that sleeps above four hours is lazy. When it comes to success, there might be principles but not formulas (I mean mindless copying). Some people just copy too much, not seeing that a lot of factors are involved. The most important thing is to learn the principles and tailor it to your unique situation. Make your work time count. I remember students back in school who claimed to be reading all night (and they were) but had little or nothing to show in their result and there were others who never went through that stress and made straight A's. It is good to look out for working formulas but it's more important to know what works for you and so you can manipulate the formula...

Saturday. That's the only day students with free time attend programs on campus. A church had invited him for a preaching slot. He's to speak for an hour. Sweat falls from his skin. Spittle spurts as he speaks. Screams fill the space and the hour ticks to a stop. He returns to his room and responds to the compliments of those who have heard him. He accompanies each nod with 'Bless God' clichés. His belly suddenly aches for food. He grabs a bite at a cafe around. He is now heavy. A noisy yawn follows and his eyes dilates. They fill with fluids. He squeezes them with his thumb and index finger. It's time to sleep. Three hours of siesta flies past. His phone had been ringing. He checks a queue of messages. They are compliments and further speaking engagement requests. He promises to spend no time answering every message but each pop on his phone only pins his attention more. People have been blessed by his sermons and want his presence even more. God's been goo...

This inspiration is from a motivational video: Quiet Desperation. ----- The time when people are feeling a great deal of anxiety and fear, and reservations about the future. A time when people are going to work and don't know whether or not they will have a job when they get off. Look at your life right now. Whatever you've done up to this point in your life, your life is working. Whatever you have produced, it came out of you, but as a result of the kind of person you've become, as a result of your choices, as a result of your consciousness. Now, you have to ask yourself, are you satisfied with what you have produced? Is this what you want? Would you like for things to be better than this? And if you don't know what it is that you showed up to do, you don't know why you're here, I encourage you to find out what your purpose is here. What is the meaning of your life? ----- Which really stops certain people from being successful because they have so many b...

He who takes medicine and neglects to diet wastes the skill of his doctors (Chinese Proverb) A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor’s book (Irish Proverb) To keep the body in good health is a duty, otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear (Buddha) To insure good health: eat lightly, breathe deeply, live moderately, cultivate cheerfulness, and maintain an interest in life (William Londen)

We shall never change our political leaders until we change the people who elect them (Mark Skousen) There is a need for financial reform along ethical lines that would produce in its turn an economic reform to benefit everyone. This would nevertheless require a courageous change of attitude on the part of political leaders (Pope Francis) Treating people fairly and with civility is not a bad thing... It would be good for our country if political leaders actually took that to heart (Jeb Bush) Leaders instill in their people a hope for success and a belief in themselves. Positive leaders empower people to accomplish their goals (Unknown)

Many small businesses are doomed from day one, not from competition or the economy, but from the ignorance of their owners . . . their destiny is already decided because they have no idea how a business should be operated (William Manchee) You can pull it off on a low budget. So instead of making a big budget which you don’t have, find a creative means of achieving your goals on a low budget (Sandra Ajaja) A good financial plan is a road map that shows us exactly how the choices we make today will affect our future (Alexa Von Tobel) Financial freedom is available to those who learn about it and work for it (Robert Kiyosaki)

I won't quit on a woman I see that has potential, I'm gonna try and get the best out of her (Tarek Woolfolk) To Love, without knowing how to Love, wounds the person we Love (Thích Nhất Hạnh) Even after the kids start coming, never stop flirting with your husband; never stop wooing your wife. Remember how you were in the beginning, before the kids started coming. Do what you did in the beginning of a relationship and there won't be an end to it (Anthony Robins) In finding Love, I think it's important to be patient. In being in a relationship, I think it's important to be honest, to communicate, to respect and trust, and to strive to give more than you take (Kina Grannis)

The name of Jesus is as powerful in a shout as it is in a whisper (Lanre Oluseye) Prayer creates a personal change in your life; nothing you can do will benefit you more than prayer (David Yonggi Cho) The purpose of preaching to Christians is to inspire them to do what they have been taught. If they have not been taught much, they can’t do much – all they get is lots of goose bumps, shouting, dancing and screaming; but Satan defeats them. What they need is information and revelation from the Word; and what local churches should do is 90% teaching and 10% preaching every so often. Preaching is to give them a little kick to do what they have first been taught (Keith Butler) If God does not know your voice in the secret, He may not respond to your call in the open (Dr. Paul Enenche)

Don’t let small minds convince you that your dreams are too big (Kathryn Kuhlman) Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them (Albert Einstein) Once you have experienced excellence, you will never be content with Mediocrity (Thomas Monson) Few things in the world are more powerful than a positive push. A smile. A world of optimism and hope. A 'you can do it' when things are tough (Richard M. Devos)

The Lady : I've been dating this guy for more than four years now. There is nothing couples are doing in marriage that we have not done. We've lived together, ate together, bath together. I've had three abortions for him. We've had business ventures together. There is nothing couples are doing that we are not doing, Sir. Me : So what do you both have left that you want to do in marriage if you get married today? The Lady : Sir, just two things left. Me : Tell me those two things. The Lady : To have kids, and to fight. Me : Fight as how? The Lady : We have never fought before. I do bottle up my anger because I have lost so much in the relationship. If I leave him, I will be at the losing end. But when we get married, he will know that he married a lioness. I am battle ready for him. This conversation ain't fictional. It's real. A lot of unmarried guys and ladies don't understand the whole lot of difference between single relationships and ...

Dear Lady, please be useful in life. Serve God, get busy, improve your talents, acquire a skill, go to school if you get the opportunity to. Don't let yourself be dependent on people or things. What will happen to you when those people or things are no longer there? You will be stuck, frustrated, suicidal and you might decide to wallow in the chaos because your life has been spent dependent on things and people. Learn to be happy, because only a lady who loves herself and is happy can actually spread love and happiness as You can't give what you don't have. Improve on all the God given gifts and talents that you've got. The gift of a man (woman) maketh a room for him (her). Don't let anyone make you dump your life and live a wasted life. Beverly Miebaka Emberru

A lot of ladies complain that the guys walk away from them simply because they objected to giving them sex. Some are even tempted to give away their virginity just to keep the guys. Virginity may not be the real reason why the guys go away, Yes. No doubt, there are a number of guys who want sex, and if they don't get it, they walk away. The problem may not be the virginity or the sex. The story of the Ten virgins in the Bible reveals that both the wise and the foolish were virgins. The other five were not permitted to see the bridegroom not because they were virgins or because they lost their virginity. NO! But because, they were foolish. And they were called foolish, because they had no EXTRA OIL. And the EXTRA OIL here, is CHARACTER! A good number of ladies, do not have the extra oil to sustain any relationship. A number of the many who brag about their virginity, may have nothing much more valuable to offer. Aside your virginity, what do you have to offer to a man? • Can y...

• When a man has a good car, it attracts more ladies to him. When a lady has a good car, it repels guys away from her. This may seem to be the world we live in. • A teenage boy impregnates his teenage girlfriend. The girl drops out of school, the boy continues his education. This may seem to be the world we live in. • A guy catches his girlfriend with another guy, he fights his girlfriend. A lady catches her guy with another lady, she fights the other lady. This may seem to be the world we live in. • The older a man becomes, the higher the number of ladies available for him. The older a lady becomes, the fewer the number of guys available for her. This may seem to be the world we live in. • A 76 year old man can still marry a 26 year old lady. A 36 year old lady is tagged too old to get married. This may seem to be the world we live in. • A man divorces his wife today and the next day he is dating other ladies. Six months later, he is married. While the divorced woman is...

I love to talk about men. And the reason is very simple: • All men are unique. • They are our pride. • They are the beauty that we have as women. Most times, I tell my friends that when you treat your man like a King, he will worship you like a Queen. Never disrespect your man, he is the reason why people are calling you Madame. Stop looking down on him because you think he is already your husband, and so nothing can happen. Believe me, there are a lots of ladies out there who are willing to pay any amount just to have that same men you are insulting everyday. If you learn how to take good care of your husband he will always make you the envy of all. Don't be ashamed to try new things. A lady is a blessing to her husband, not trouble, pain and heartbreak. Make your husband your best friend. Your husband should be able to say, "Honey, I'm favoured because I have You as my wife". Your calls and presence should never remind him of how much a mistake he may have ...

Last night (referring to night before the day this was written), I stirred up your thoughts about being a social media star and being broke. It will be remiss of me to just stop there without pointing to the “How". There may be folks out there who needs our guidance and knowledge to stir them aright. Let's get right into it. If you have at least one person following you, what are the ways you can earn by showing up on social media? • SELL YOUR PRODUCTS OR SERVICE I am sure that sounds cliché. However, it is imperative you look critically at the some products you have access to, maybe things you created, services you can offer and use your timeline (platform) to project same. You may begin with a low priced offer or free, just to get people to use your products or get feedback on your service. If you don't have a product or service, or you have not decided to push yours, not to worry as you have a way out. • INFLUENCER MARKETING Imagine you get to talk about a product...

We all know how it plays out, when a person is arrested and taken to the Court. Usually, they are accused of a crime but considered Innocent, until proven Guilty. In court, the case is tried. The accusers (plaintiff) try to prove beyond reasonable doubt that they are guilty of the offence(s) they have been charged with, while the  lawyer(s) (the defendant) try to defend the accused and get them cleared of the charges. The Judge then passes a verdict of "guilt" or "discharged and acquitted" at the end of the trial depending on the amount of evidence for or against the accused. Normally, the accused will also be allowed to testify but ultimately, EVIDENCE is the chief determinant of the verdict to be passed. Now let's do something with this analogy I just pointed out. Let's say for instance, you get arrested and charged with the crime of "being a Christian". Yes, let's say you are charged with the crime of "being a Christian", and you ...

That Altar in your Church built by men is not as sacred as You if you have the Holy Spirit dwelling in You! You are holier than the altar. The main altar is in me. So when I kneel at the Altar of our Church, I come with God’s presence. It is my presence as a Child of God that even makes that place a sacred place! So, when I wish to kneel at the Altar and pray, it means I just want to separate myself from the crowd for a while and pray! I love the idea of Chapels in big churches. For me, it's a quiet place where you can run from distraction and concentrate on God but it is not another special place where another kind of God’s power is made available. If the Spirit of God isn’t in You, you are wasting your time at that altar. If you don’t have a personal relationship with God, I wonder who you are talking to at that altar! God functions from you and not from the altar, podium or stage in our Churches. Akande M. Olatunji

The Foundation is Important, Yes; so is the roofing too. Beautiful childhood memories I have, maybe the most beautiful ever told (at least that was the one I witnessed, don't know of any other). God bless our parents who wore us lovely clothes and took us to church, - to children ministry which was so much fun. Virtually everything was composed into song; Bible study, Memory verses, etcetera. There would always be rhyme and rhythm, melody and harmony. We would dance, sing on top of our voices, laugh so hard and feel all excited! I remember kingdom dance, we usually were the front liners shaking our entire being in our beautiful attires, panty hose and the rest. We would eat biscuits, celebrate birthdays, pray with tightly closed eyes, give special numbers... As we grew older, you'll be questioned about your head covering, so much jewellery spaghetti handed dresses, etcetera (lol). We would go for camp meetings... Catechism came, we memorized plenty things, plenty, and recit...