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• Carnalism – It doesn't matter how you look like on the outside. What matters is that Christ has declared you saved and you're now the righteousness of God by Christ Jesus. So don't let those "holier than thou" people make you feel like a sinner because you still have some swag and they don't... Please enjoy Grace and don't follow those people that burden you with laws to obey... Christ has set you free, so please be free. • Legalism – How can you tell me that it doesn't matter how you look like on the outside?. How can I call myself a Christian and still dress and talk like the people of this world? C'mon na, light must differentiate itself from darkness even on the outside... Please, being under Grace doesn't mean we are free to do as we like. Me, I'll place extreme boundaries on myself so what I believe on the inside would always be seen on my outside. By: Abeyi Kingsley Onoriode

I grow snails and I have grown so fond of these graceful creatures. I love my snails so much but didn't realize how attached I was to these creatures. Some weeks back, as I went through my pen taking care of the snails, I discovered an abnormal behavior in one of my snails, it was a layer. I discovered it had lost weight, was sluggish and inactive. Immediately I knew something was wrong. I paid extra attention to it. Firstly, I quarantined it, increased its macro nutrient source and gave it more room. I monitored it for over a week and there was no improvement; I didn't know when I laid my hands on it and prayed that God should heal my snail. I believed it was healed. Early every morning, when I go to take care of the snails, I checked on that particular snail first but there was no improvement instead the situation deteriorated. Finally my beloved snail died, I felt so bad that it affected my countenance the whole day. This was just because of a single snail, I have many sna...

Grace makes you supernatural, not moral. The ability to say no to evil or anything wrong morally isn't by grace but by conscience exercised. When Paul the apostle said in Titus 2:12 that grace teaches us to deny ungodliness, he is talking about the supernatural life grace gets us into. Not to steal or to avoid stealing is a moral thing. You don't need grace for that. You don't need grace in order to start talking good or bad. Your conscience is there to pilot you on such activities. Joseph didn't overcome Portiphar's wife by grace, because Joseph hadn't the Spirit in him. It wasn't grace that taught Joseph to eschewed the sex trap, but his conscience! An unbeliever can deny immortality, evil things and even barbaric attitudes, yet he or she doesn't know what grace is or hasn't be born again. You don't need grace to deny wrong acts! Many unbelievers are denying wrong acts on daily basis! However, to deny ungodliness is to live supernaturall...

Years ago, when I was still clawed by masturbation; I desperately needed help. The more I engaged in masturbation, the more I hated myself. But still, I couldn't get off the claws. I consulted several men of God who offered different solutions to my problem. One of the solutions a certain man of God offered got me off my butt. He said I would need to stop eating okra (ila). Of course, I believed him. Desperation makes you do anything, no matter how stupid it is. I thanked God my problem would end. Okra was one of my most-desired soups, but I had no choice. The man said I would stop masturbating if I strictly adhered to his so-called God-given instruction. I tried everything possible to avoid okra. No matter how much I desired and needed it, I still avoided it. For three years, my problem persisted. I masturbated even more. Still, I believed this man's lie, and still avoided okra, thinking Okra would mysteriously end my addiction. Even when I believed, and read the Word, I st...

• We all have that one girl/guy that we can’t get and he/she has no idea you like him/her. • When you are with the person you love most, every pain you have and every sadness you feel, fades away instantly. • Most people are so lazy to LOVE, all the commitments and devotions involved is too much of a work. • The only thing man lacks when it comes to women is: Patience. The only thing woman lacks when it comes to men is: Endurance. • Dating an awkward person is less stressful. You laugh more and have more fun which improves quality of life and overall health. • Keep smiling. You never know who is falling in love with it. • Sometimes the best way to appreciate something is to be without it for a while. • Eating your food slowly will help you lose weight, enjoy your food, reduce stress, and lead to better digestion. • Some people aren't actually anti social, they're just very selective when it comes to the people they associate with. • While you're busy looking for t...

The Quotes today, is credited to Mute Efe. Mute Efe is a Leadership Coach. The Quotes: • "Who is a leader?" "The one with the title." Wrong answer. The one everyone goes to when there is a crisis. • Forget about tall, dark and handsome. Leadership will make you the most attractive person in your organization. • "I really want to be a Leader but my company will not train me." Train yourself. It is your life, not your company's life. • "But I am just the office assistant at my place of work." Then be a leading office assistant. Lead where You are. • "I need a title to be a leader." No, Sir. You don't need a title. All you need is Oxygen and You already have that. • How can I be a Leader without a job? Lead where you are. Leadership is a job. A very demanding job. Mute Efe

On the day Vice President Mnangagwa of Zimbabwe was fired, he decided to leave the country quickly because he sensed danger. As he could not use a commercial flight, he called on two Indian brothers who were "his long term friends" to ask if he could use their private jet parked at Harare International Airport. The guys flatly refused to help Mnangagwa saying they did not want to jeopardize their business interests. Mnangagwa had to take the risk of leaving the country by road via Zimbabwe – Mozambique border. The interesting news for the Indian friends was that last Friday, the man they refused to help when he desperately needed their help was sworn in as President of Zimbabwe. Lessons: 1. Most people we call our friends will abandon us when we are down or when they think they can no longer benefit anything from us. 2. Never abandon your friends when they are down because you don't know what tomorrow may bring. Tables can turn when you least expect it. 3. Always be ...

• Graça Machel is the only woman in history to have been First Lady of two separate nations, serving as the First Lady of Mozambique from 1975 to 1986 and the First Lady of South Africa from 1998 to 1999. • If the amount of water in your body is reduced by just 1%, you'll feel thirsty. If it's reduced by 10%, you'll die. • Jehovah's Witnesses don't celebrate birthdays because the only two accounts of birthday parties in the Bible ended in murder. • In Turkmenistan, citizens do not pay for water, gas and electricity. • On 17 March 1982, the former France International footballer, Jean-Pierre Adams, was given anaesthetic that should have knocked him out for a few hours to perform a knee operation, up till today he is still in coma and yet to wake. • The rape of males over the age of 14 is not a criminal offence in the People's Republic of China. • Beer is the third most popular drink overall after water and tea. • Apples’ earnings is twice bigger than Niger...

I started out from the bottom and I was never meant to rise. My father strolled out on me before I was even born and my mother did same when I was 11! At that age, I was given to a stranger who took me on a journey that was supposed to be my last which eventually became my first. We travelled by road and after two days, we got to Tudu park in Accra. He gave me 11600 cedis and asked me to wait for him to return but he never did. I was left stranded in a strange land with a strange tongue I could neither speak nor understand. With nothing but 11600 cedis, Primary Three education and a choice to either die or live, I was set loose into the Arena. But for me not to die like a coward, I chose to fight. At least if I die, let me die fighting. I fought for life even with my life! The best I could do was to hawk and I hawked my life out. I was both a mobile and stationary hawker just to make sure that I had something to eat, a point to prove and a possibility to create. I would trek unimagi...

I saw this list of books and I felt like sharing with you, I have read almost all of them, you too can. --------------------------------------------------------------- 20 Personal Finance Books to read --------------------------------------------------------------- 1. Rich Dad, Poor Dad. by Robert Kiyosoki 2. Richest Man in Babylon by Carson 3. The Compound effects by Darren Hardy 4. The Millionaire Next Door by Thomas Stanley 5. The Intelligent investor by Benjamin Graham forwarded by Warren Buffet 6. Secret of the millionaire mind by Thomas Stanley 7. Personal finance for dummies by Eric Tyson 8. Think and grow rich by Napoleon Hill 9. Beating the street by Peter Lynch 10. Thinking fast and slow by Daniel Goldie 11. Financial peace by Dave Ramsey 12. The Automatic millionaire by David Bach 13. The four pillars of investing 14. The Behavior Gap by Carl Richards 15. The Psychology of Investing 16. The Investment Answer by Daniel Goldie 17. The One Minute millionaire...

The Quotes today, is credited to Alex Iheanacho, a Finance and Human Possibility Specialist. The Quotes: • Don't just chase money and forget life. If You do, You will come to the end of your life with nothing but worthless papers and things. • Convert your customers to friends and not friends to customers. "Customer friends" are happy to pay but "Friend customers" will want it for free or feel they are doing You a favour by paying. • Never ever be shy, slow, weak or timid in promoting yourself, what You do or in asking for money. Only poor people do so. • Find your strongest WHYs and the best HOWs will follow. • I love going to school, for as long as I don't do it to get a high paying job but a high paying sense. • I don't teach You about money or life, your probably know them better than me. I teach the psychology behind them. • You can invest in shit and make money. You can also invest in Gold and lose money. It is proper to invest wisely! ...

Yes! Mornings are always interesting, apart from you having to wake up by the sound of the drum team of a Primary School close to your house (you know how that feels right). You get to have your quiet time (kind of the most important part of my development). So then while studying today (on the day this was written), the Holy Spirit taught me a wonderful principle (well, if you know it, that's good but for those who don't, it's for you too) DO YOU NOT KNOW THAT IN A RACE, ALL THE RUNNERS RUN BUT ONLY ONE GETS THE PRIZE? RUN IN SUCH A WAY TO GET THE PRIZE (1 Corinthians 9:24) Our attitude and disposition towards the race (whatever we're striving to be the best at) already puts us on a position tag. If our mindset is not to win, why race then? Let's Just go home and have pity party! If we're not in it for the prize (the end result which is Success), let's go home! If we really want to get the prize, we must pay the price by running to get the prize. If we ...

Have you been mocked because of your obvious short coming? Does it appear as if life is Rhadamanthine? Have you allowed the withering treatment of others cut you off your pursuit? Meet Achmad Zulkarnain, a photographer unlike any other. Achmad Zulkarnain might have been born without hands and legs, but that did not get in the way of his Success. The Indonesian man is a professional photographer who refuses to be defined by his physical disability. The 24-year-old shutterbug has come up with a unique method to operate the camera, making use of his face, mouth and the extra skin on his arms to switch on the device and snap stunning pics. Zulkarnain has captured many striking photographs, garnering over 30,000 followers on social media platforms like Facebook and Instagram. He even set up his own company to expand and better manage his business. The strong-willed man wants to reshape how most people perceive disabled people. “I don’t want people to see my pictures and think of who I am...

There is a difference between WISHING for a thing and being READY to receive it. No one is ready for a thing, until he believes he can acquire it. The state of mind must be BELIEF, not mere hope or wish. Open mindedness is essential for belief. I've come to realize that each time I need something so urgently, my hopes and drives virtualize nothing less than achieving it, this has always driven me forward. What about you?..... What drives you towards focusing on beating procrastination. The moment you focus on the REWARDS rather than the WORK, you start overcoming procrastination. By: Eze Victor Obinna

How do you live a life of purpose? See what's possible and help other people do the same. Purpose has no other meaning than that. I wake up everyday knowing that I'm in the presence of greatness and universal abundance... Maybe undeveloped or unfound by many, they are there nonetheless. Since I never know who will go on to change the world, the best I can do is to assume that it might just be that next man I meet today. So I'm gonna be nice to him, I will share my knowledge with him, I will believe in him, I will serve him, I will lead him to his other self, Even when he doesn't believe me or himself, I will try some more. But if I can't do any of those, I will never discredit him or leave him worse of. I let every of my encounter be a testimony and a moment of Impact. In the words of 2pac, "I might not be the one to change the world, but I can sure spark the brain that will". I pledge to make a difference today, how about you? By: Alex ...

When it comes to Productivity, there are two kinds of people. Those whose bodies are ahead of their minds and those whose minds are ahead of their bodies. The first are reactive, the second are proactive. To be reactive is to be controlled by the environment. You have no idea what you are going to do next. You have no plan. Not even a plan for what you will be doing tomorrow. You wait for whatever happens and then you react. That baby gave you nine months notice before coming to this world but it was on the ninth month you suddenly realized that you've not done any shopping for what the baby will need after birth. Your body is ahead of your mind. Have you seen people who are always running up and down? Every time they are about to leave the house they have to search everywhere for the car keys. They never have any place anything. Their bodies are ahead of their mind. To be proactive is to be in control. And even for things outside of your control, you plan your response ahead o...

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The Relationship Quotes today, is credited to Uchenna Ilo. The Quotes: • Be with Someone who wants to help You learn how to Love yourself. • Just because You fell in Love with the wrong person who taught You a life lesson doesn't mean You should give up on Love. • Just because You have loved the wrong people in the past doesn't mean You should stop trusting people. • We enter relationships to fulfil our highest potential and not because we are lonely. Be careful who You choose. • Your soulmate cannot be jealous of You because they don't need You to be happy; they are content with their own company. Uchenna Ilo

The WORD Quotes today, is credited to Akande M. Olatunji. The Quotes: • Some Christians who excessively engage in “Spiritual warfare” spend much time and energy negotiating and chatting with the devil each day, than they do talking to God. That is abnormal and so inappropriate. The scriptures never instructed us to bag PH.D. in DEMONology. The best warfare to engage in is focusing on Jesus ! • Actually, the problem is not about the OLD testament. We learn from the Old testament. The problem is the OLD COVENANT! • It is a thing to BE in charge, it is another thing to KNOW that You are in charge. It is a thing to BE FREE, it is another thing to KNOW you're FREE! You need to carry the consciousness of your covenant position in Christ! • If You never watched the movie 'Terminator', then I doubt if your childhood was fun. Lol. See the movie on the surface, don’t dig deep. In terminator 1, Arnold is the bad guy. He dies in the end. In terminator 2, He rises again as a G...

The Quotes today, is credited to Mute Efe, a Leadership Coach. The Quotes: • Your candle does not go out because You helped others light their candles. It only makes the world a brighter place. • If You don't first believe it is possible, You will never find the reason or the strength to pursue your dreams. • If it is important enough, You will create time for it. • The house of frustration is built with the bricks of "one day, I will..." • The hand that gives is always on top. Mute Efe

Insecurity makes you so anxious and afraid of losing what you already have. The more you express insecurity in a relationship, the more you gradually start losing what was initially yours. Even if the certainty of the union got it's origin from Divine declaration, if the problem of insecurity is not dealt with, it is more than capable of ruining what God has even ordained. This is why it is so important to deal with d problem of insecurity before commencing any relationship. And if a relationship has already begun with the problem undealt with initially, there could still be hope if we take a pause and deal with it first, before continuing the relationship. Knowing how to trust God totally and leaving the future for Him to decide (with a consciousness that He has your happiness at heart) is the only antidote I know at this moment, for that debilitating disease called insecurity. ----- Insecurity is a really terrible disease. It aims to spoil the beauty of every well meaning re...

Once you have mastered the art of loving people, you will automatically become a healer, prophet, and leader. Love is beyond feelings, love is an art. Love is something you learn how to do. Love is something we learn from experience. Love is deeper than most people think. Love has always been painful because we never knew how to love which made us choose the wrong people to love. Abuse and trauma are the outcomes of relationships involving novices in love. You will bring suffering to yourself and to your partner if both of you don't know how to love. You can start by learning how to love yourself. You cannot give what you don't have. Love is not attachment and love is not needy. Love does not suffocate and love is rarely angry. Heartbreaks are the instruments for fine-tuning our love vibration. Love is used for growing and love is used for healing. Love is the electricity that powers my life. Love is a prophet and love is the source of all miracles. By: Uchenna Ilo

When those things that easily angered you in the past no longer trigger your anger, you can tell that your healing is progressing. When you no longer feel the need to impress people, you know that your authenticity is beginning to emerge. When you sleep peacefully in the midst of intense pressure, you know that you have found the road to inner peace. When you have mastered how to control your anger and transform it into peace, you know you are an avatar. When you know how to convert mistakes into wisdom, your life will be sweet. When you believe that every disappointment is a blessing, you know you have wisdom. When your happiness is no longer dependent on anybody, you know you have found love. By: Uchenna Ilo

In case no one ever told you, you have millions of mili traces and biological characters that distinguishes you from every other person who has existed, who will exist and who is yet to exist. When people come to tell you to settle for less, remember you deserve better than less. When you feel someone is the only option you got no matter how badly they treat you, baby girl, you deserve better. Because they did you a favor in the past and now they feel they can use you for it, my brother, you deserve better. You may not have money. Your parents may not, don't slide yourself to the level where you feel you can't be whoever you want to be. You deserve better. He has been physically abusing you in that relationship, emotionally you are a wreck. Princess, you deserve better. She no longer loves you like she used to, you know she's got her attention elsewhere, my man, you deserve better. You deserve to be a Queen. You deserve to be a King. You deserve a good life. You d...

I have two sons. One of them loves food so much that he eats food even in advance. The other keeps his food and eats it slowly so that it lasts longer. I respect both of their choices. I love both of them. This morning (on the day this was written) as I gave one of them bread and he ate, I found him keep coming for more. But the only one 'serving' I gave to the other was still with him; being managed, so that it wouldn't finish on time. Both are my sons. Both are dearly loved by me. Both have their choices respected. Their choices do not make me love either of them less. ----- Stop accusing those that want more from God and more from life, of greed. Stop accusing them for desiring much. That one is contented with less does not make the one that wants more covetous. The Father is not complaining. He's got more than enough... By: Bimbola Tayo-Bamidele

Forgiveness is an indescribable gift. And it isn’t cheap. Do You ever think what it cost God to forgive You, because the price is so high? Is there anything You can humanly do to earn forgiveness? What does receiving God’s forgiveness require of You? How does God's forgiveness change your attitude toward people who need your forgiveness? If you need to forgive someone, recall your own weaknesses and failing. Your own need for forgiveness may help You to forgive that person. Forgiveness is a choice. You can choose to hold on to your hurt, but it will only leaves bitterness and anger. Forgiving frees You as much as it frees the person who is forgiven. If there is someone you are struggling to forgive, admit to God and ask Him to help You follow His example and to do what He commands. Allow the Holy Spirit to soften your heart. Matthew 6 vs 12-15. By: Emmanuel Christian

Have You ever wondered why You get the most temptations after You just finished a serious spiritual overhauling? The reason is that God boasts about You to the devil telling him – don't you see my child, don't you see how committed, separated and devoted he is to me, I love him. The devil gets angry and challenges God telling him he can make you fall and God allows him. Suddenly, the devil sends some demons on assignment, You notice strange feelings, You see yourself wanting to go back to your past ways, demons responsible for your past lifestyles will be on the increase around You, strange doors of compromise and destruction will open, temptations will heighten, desires, thoughts and even hormones will respond. The Devil creeps in with suggestions in form of innocent thoughts in your mind, they begin to build up. As if that's not enough, he shuts certain doors, sends hindering spirits and demons of confusion to trouble You. People all of a sudden hate and quarrel You fo...

We should remember that just as a positive outlook on life can promote good health, so can everyday acts of kindness (Hillary Clinton) Living a healthy lifestyle will only deprive You of poor health, lethargy, and fat (Jill Johnson) Live in rooms full of light. Avoid heavy food. Be moderate in the drinking of wine. Take massage, baths, exercise, and gymnastics. Fight insomnia with gentle rocking or the sound of running water. Change surroundings and take long journeys. Strictly avoid frightening ideas. Indulge in cheerful conversation and amusements. Listen to music (Aulus Cornelius Celsus) People tend to think of breakthroughs in medicine as a new drug, a laser, or a high-tech surgical procedure. They often have hard time believing that the simple choices that we make in our lifestyle. What we eat how we respond to stress, whether or not we smoke cigarettes, how much exercise we get, and the quality of our relationship and support can be as powerful as drugs and surgery. And they o...

Don't impose your standards on people but teach them how to respond to your presence in love. Some people are not in the best fellowships (exposed to much Spiritual information) but are working in all the light (Knowledge of God) they have with all sincerity. They are still God's children and will make heaven. To whom much is given, much will be demanded. So for you that claim to have higher revelations, more is expected from You. Knowledge from God is like a currency and You should transact with it no matter how small because God's aim is for it to fill the earth as waters in the sea. God will demand profit from every revelation He gives to You. Don't allow that revelation stay dormant because every gift given to a man is for him to profit withal. By: Raphael Donanu

Every Civilisation embeds it's ambitions in culture and folk-lore. Everything in Scriptures is in stories and metaphors, it is saying that all of life is embedded in seed form. The Scripture refuses to be scientific, it doesn't try to be relevant to scientific enquires. The seed of the Word is trying to tell that You and the world was made and hence there's a manual and if You believe things were created, You too can create. (Romans 1:20) If we copy what was created, sporadic inventions will take place. Example, if you want to make a submarine, study fishes; for a plane, study birds; for governments, study bacteria and You will see different patterns, etcetera. Impressions on your heart are simply a fact that the invisible things have made an impression in your heart. There is no such thing as without form. The without form that comes to mind is usually already a form. What You usually imagine is irregularity, if something is scattered, it's without form – but scattere...