Before You Propose

Truth be told, I believe in that proverbial saying "shoe have sizes". A man who doesn't recognize the relevance of his shoe size will end up with an over sized or an under sized shoe. It's not all Ladies, that one can afford. No matter one's bank account, even if you're Nigeria's richest man, Dangote. Financial capacity aside, there are some Ladies beyond your mental capacity, who reason now beyond the way you will in the next five years (no insult intended, just reality). I have met such Ladies.

Then there's Spiritual capacity. As a Pastor, or upcoming Pastor (If such title exists), or one with the Call of God on one's life; and who gets married to a Lady or a Man, who has no interest in God or the Church, how would one cope with one's partner who has some added spiritual responsibilities as a Preacher of the Gospel, or/and a Partner who doesn't feel okay or appreciate your calling as a Spiritual leader?

What about Physical capacity?

How about Social capacity?
When one marries a person whose normal crowd/social circle, is one's once in a life time encounter or vice versa, it will be a challenge sometimes. It can be intimidating and could be a source of friction if one can't deal/cope with it.

There are a lot of other capacities too.

About financial capacity, One needs to consider his kinetic and potential financial capacities, that is, the income one earns now and that, one thinks he will earn in the future; before one will be complaining that his lady is too expensive. For example, one proposing to a lady who uses iPhone 7, that costs about #400k when one's six months salary is just about enough to afford that.

Of course, there are also those not up to your capacity, mentally and otherwise,

PS:

• I believe that in life we grow, we could be rich today, maybe poor tomorrow; or/and poor today, rich tomorrow. Thus, when judging the capacity of a person, never over look the possibility of change, and the possibility that some people and some things cannot and will not change as well.

• I know some Ladies like to put themselves in a position they are not up to, this post doesn't cover those pretending personalities.

Credit to Musa Gift (MG)