3 Solutions to Relationship Issues

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There will always be issues in relationships, and solving problems can be a skill, or something you can at least have an idea about.

There are three solutions to almost all problems that's encountered in relationships;
1. Accept it
2. Change it
3. Leave it

Let's take the example:

You met a guy who approached you for a relationship, and which you accepted. Down the line, you got to learn that he's a mummy's boy, and that's a problem with you.
For the Dude, let's say you discovered that your fiancée is very untidy and dirty. Of course, you've got a problem with that.

Now, what does one do?

1. Accept it:

Well, at least he is kind, or romantic, you justify. You try to see the positive side of him and then you choose to live with it like that. You accept.

She's beautiful though untidy. But she can cook for Africa, I can always clean up after her, I'll manage. So you accept it.

There will be little faults about people that we can overlook and live with. Nobody is perfect. Sometimes, we just make mountains out of molehills. Don't throw away gold because it wasn't as smooth as you would have wanted.
But let me say this, it is foolish and suicidal for you to accept what you cannot tolerate or live with, when you're not forced to do so because of "I will manage", when you can actually avoid such a life. There are faults, and there are faults. You may think you can cope now, but why hope for a tomorrow that you can not cope with today?

There's still another solution, read on...

2. Change it:

This will involve patience, prayers, love, care, humility, being calm, understanding, and doesn't involve nagging, complaining, quarreling, giving ultimatums, threatening, manipulations, using force of any kind or form.
Basically, you talk with him. You tell him your mind in love, humility, and at the perfect time and location too. This isn't acceptable: "I love you, but I can't compete with your mother for your heart; I want to know you love me and me above all else, that I come first"
You talk to her, "I really can't stand a dirty house, I love you so much and don't want to lose you, but I can't stand this. Please, change for me, for our love; pick up your shoes when you enter the house; tidy your room,"... Let's hope this works, and the partner changes.

3. Leave it:

Marriage is not by force. All relationships must not end in marriage. A broken courtship is better than a broken marriage. You get my drift? beautiful!
Don't enter into fire with your both eyes open. Love ain't blind. It's those in love who are or decide to be. They say looks can be deceiving, but it's also said, 'look before you leap.'

When a relationship becomes an issue, if you can't accept it; change it. If you can't change it, leave it!

For the married;
Accept it, except your life is at stake (like in a case of domestic violence) then you can leave it. You can also attempt to change it. No one will ask you to accept or change, while your life is at stake.

For the singles, do make the wise decision about your relationship life. Choose the right partner, make the right choices, understand each other, decide on ways to solve issues and be open to listen and solve the issues.

Credited to Musa Gift (MG)
Welcome to the Blog. I love Positivity. I love sharing Positivity. I encourage You to always be Positive. Positivity pays. It's what we all need to achieve both personal and cooperate Success and Fulfillment. Develop a Positive Mindset. Build Positive Relationships. Have an open mind to Learn and Improve. Always seek to grow and be the best available Version of Yourself. Always Believe that You CAN!

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