The Strong Independent Lady

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You get involved with a man and get carried away. You miss a day of school here and there, give up on your goals and career. And before you know it, you've paused Your Own Life.

You want to spend all of your time with this great person. STOP IT! You’re losing yourself and you’ll eventually turn this guy off by smothering him and losing yourself in him.

Don’t let him be a distraction from your
personal goals. Be careful and don’t make that mistake. It happens to women all the time, so be prepared to control yourself and stay focused when this happens!

Stay focused on your own life. Don’t use a man as a way to fill in your life for you. This makes you the clingy, overbearing girl and it pushes men away.
If you have no goals or ambition and find it hard to keep yourself busy, don't assume you would get it all rosy with a man who maybe is wealthy!

If you accept being that dependent woman, a strong independent woman would always be a better option for men!


Credit: Eze Victor Obinna

Welcome to the Blog. I love Positivity. I love sharing Positivity. I encourage You to always be Positive. Positivity pays. It's what we all need to achieve both personal and cooperate Success and Fulfillment. Develop a Positive Mindset. Build Positive Relationships. Have an open mind to Learn and Improve. Always seek to grow and be the best available Version of Yourself. Always Believe that You CAN!

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