Nothing should be forced

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It is not rocket science to decipher when you are giving your time (which is of utmost value), affection (which is of course priceless), and care/concern (which costs you something definitely) to a person who does not deserve it.

People may want to argue that everybody deserves someone who is all out for them in a special way. While I agree with that, there is also a fact which cannot be overlooked in its entirety. This fact is that not everybody will merit all your time, affection, care, and concern.

People have knowingly/unknowingly enslaved themselves by giving 'too much' to the wrong person! There will be that wise person around you who 'sees clearer' and identifies that you are wasting your time (however this may hurt) with the wrong person but the dark veil that covers your sight makes you unable to see your own errors.

What is this 'dark veil'? It is a notion made by no other than yourself that you are doing the RIGHT THING by going out of your way for someone who is less concerned about your existence. It is NO LONGER a right thing when you have to do all that for a person who does not appreciate your kind gestures and efforts. The person does not deserve it at all.

We all need to come to the realization that not everybody will appreciate, merit, or even reciprocate the act of love and kindness we give. After knowing this fact, there is no reason therefore to have sleepless nights, refuse to eat, refuse to work, or refuse to smile and be happy for the gift of life.

The only thing needed is to identify those who are truly deserving of your precious time, affection, and care. The others who do not can as well do whatever they like with their lives for all you care. You are saving yourself a lot of regrets by doing that.

The best gift you can give yourself is to detoxify yourself of those people whom you know deep down will never be bothered by any little or great step you make.

Learn to value yourself first!


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Welcome to the Blog. I love Positivity. I love sharing Positivity. I encourage You to always be Positive. Positivity pays. It's what we all need to achieve both personal and cooperate Success and Fulfillment. Develop a Positive Mindset. Build Positive Relationships. Have an open mind to Learn and Improve. Always seek to grow and be the best available Version of Yourself. Always Believe that You CAN!

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