Positive Life & Relationship Blog

This is the intent with positivity and fulfillment. Life sometimes brings you to question yourself about why you have not made it or achieved your goals and purpose. And the annoying thing is that everyone around you seems to be on top of their game and you feel left out. But the truth is that You are in the process of making it Big! This reminds me of the story I once heard of an elephant and the dog. They were both pregnant at the same time. The Dog gave birth but the Elephant was still pregnant. The Dog took in a second time and gave birth but the Elephant was still pregnant with the first, and surprisingly the elephant didn't seem disturbed. The dog gave birth to her second set of puppies. The Elephant was equally happy with the Dog. The Dog took in for the third time and gave birth. Wow! The Dog was so proud of herself and she started boasting and ridiculing the Elephant and parading with her puppies in front of the Elephant like a proud mother would. The Elephant just lau...

Growing up, I had this junk in my head that when things are not working out fine, it's God trying to resist us from erring (because what we may be trying to do might not be His will). I believed this lie until recently and ever since then I have questioned a lot of things I have learnt and believed concerning my faith. I was at a cross road in my life where a lot of things were not working out as planned. I became confused and depressed. I needed answers to the numerous questions in my head; Why were things falling apart? Then, with the knowledge of what I had learnt, I wondered why God will resist all my plans, this even made me more sad and confused. How would a loving father cause his son this kind of pain even when he knows that my intentions are not bad? This question was unanswered for a long time and was almost changing my perception about God. With this confusion in my head, I started looking for answers, and in the course of time I stumbled on the parable of the prodigal...

You are not your past mistakes. Don't let your mistakes define you. The journey to self-realization begins with reframing your stories in ways that empower you rather than depress you. Make time to examine your experiences and to reflect on them, and in doing so you will grow spiritually. Exploring your own self is one of the most courageous things you will ever do. Denial will most likely be the greatest hurdle that you will face during your introspection. If you really want to be self-aware, it is better to be brutally honest with yourself as regards your role in the tragedies of your past. Own your mistakes and use them as building blocks for your spiritual evolution. Uchenna Ilo

• Unstable, Unsettled, Insecure and hasty in action. • Acts and talks spontaneously without thorough reasoning. • Realizes Actions after carried out, and feels remorseful and bites itself for not doing the right things earlier. • Very Indecisive and not Resolute. • Dependent on the comfort of others when faced with difficulties. • Lacks Authority over issues and over its own life sometimes. • Looses control of relationships with people, giving the control over to others. Lives at the mercies of others. • Personified by foolish Immature displays. • Gets too many persons involved in its very personal affairs (especially emotional relationships) and lacks the personal motivation or ability to handle it all by itself without the input of others. • Wallow in self-pity and wishing they had less stressful and less difficult times like others (In its mind, it's the only one that got problems). • Lacks bodily and emotional discipline to the core; feelings controls conduct. • Stru...

Money is hiding in things people don't want. Over the weekend, I listened to the speech of a top network marketing guru in South Africa and these are the points he mentioned about money and where you can get it. He said that one will only find money in these three places: The first place where one will find money is with people. All businesses need people to make money. Doctors need people to make money and they call those people patients. Checkers and Woolworths needs people to make money and they call them customers. Mortuaries need dead people to make money. If one runs away from people, one is running away from wealth. If one says that he/she is shy and can't talk to people, then it means poverty will be one's best friend. The second place one can find money is to find solutions to people's problems. Most people run away from problems because they don't want to find solutions to the problems. That's why we don't last in things that we start because i...

I got this from a friend, and I thought it worthy of sharing with you. I hope someone gets inspired. The following are eight ways to be poor and stay poor. • Never wake up early. Keep stretching and turning in bed until you get too hungry to continue dozing. If there are no bed bugs, why hurry to get up? • Never plan how to spend your money. Whenever you get money, start spending it right away and when it's finished, you try to count and recall how you spent it. • Don't think of saving until you have real big money. How can you save when you earn so little? Those telling you to save are not sympathetic to your burning needs. • Don't engage in activities usually reserved for the "uneducated". How can you, a graduate, engage in petty trade, network marketing or home-based production? That's for people who never went to school! • Don't think of starting a business until an angel comes from heaven and gives you capital. How do they expect you to inve...

Let me tell you a Story - a true Life Story. It was in the late 50's, the medical field then was still in its infancy. A Woman got pregnant and she gave birth to a son. Years later, she got pregnant again, and went to meet her Doctor. She said to her Doctor, "I am pregnant". Her Doctor said; "no, you are not". But she insisted that she was, that she know it and could feel it in her. The Doctor however said, "it's a growth in you, not a baby. Just go, you will be fine". The lady went back to her normal business. Forty years later, she began to feel abdominal pain. Her son rushed her to the hospital. Thank God that by then, the medical field had advanced technologically. Investigations were carried out, and it was discovered that she had actually been pregnant forty years ago, and that the fetus had died and crystallized inside her. Her baby died, in Her. What's that pregnancy you are carrying? That dream you have, you know it. You know you we...

Tombstones and legacies are for the dead. I will not play it safe! I will live for the now! Impact the world for the now! Change lives for the now! Laugh for the now! Love for the now! I want to experience the length, depth, and breadth of life! I will NEVER stop singing the song in my heart! I will NEVER stop sharing my experiences and helping others through theirs. I believe in unconditional love. I believe in dangerous unselfishness. I believe in daring to achieve. I believe in making mistakes. I believe in helping others. I believe in moving on. I believe in passionate romance. I believe in living the fullness of this human experience. I believe in ME. I believe in YOU. It’s all about the FULLNESS of life! I'm not just here for the victories. I'm here for the scars. Doing the things you are passionate about that casts a smile inside the depth of your soul. (trippleff) Tripple Friddle Frizzle Tff

The WORD Quotes for this week is credited to a friend, T ripple Friddle Frizzle Tff. • God works best through the men and women who have been crushed by the hammer blows of the devil. He can bring you out and lift you up. • The Almighty has already armed you with every strength to fight, triumph and be victorious. Now stand strong and proceed with Courage. • Amazing things happen when you give God room to show up and show off in your life. • When it seems almost impossible to see beyond your pain, ask God for His perspective! • When God redeems, He restores. Let it go. Tripple Friddle Frizzle Tff

When I was younger, the people I looked up to as "role models" are people I look back now and wonder what kind of air I was breathing in then. Now, each time I change TV channels and Dan screams, "That's bishop Mike Okonkwo! That's papa and mama! (Bishop T.V and Pastor Mrs Dolapo Adelakun) That's Pastor Sam Adeyemi! That's bishop David Oyedepo! Mummy, see Joyce Meyer! Pastor E.A Adeboye! Pastor Paul Enenche! Pastor Becky Enenche! Ah, Myles Munroe!..." I just feel so good. Yes, we look to Jesus; yet, we can't but appreciate those who have been looking to Him before us, and are proofs that He is who He says He is. I'm glad that when my son says, "I just love this man!", I don't have to begin to preach to him. Who are your children's role models? Who are those they see as "heroes"? Now, I'm not saying they must have same as mine. I'm only asking, "Peradventure, they follow those people's pa...

Our Quotes today, will feature quotes from Nonso Kingsley Nwosu (The Strategist). • Be allergic to mediocrity. Don't accommodate Negativity. You are a Celebrity. • I just have a statistical feeling that "Wrong humility" has buried more destinies than "pride" itself. • Most people that look down on others don't have much Value. People of value are Simple and Humble. • My late Grandma told me to always be the first to throw a punch in a fight; that the chances that I will win is high. Because first punch destabilizes your opponent and makes him/her fight from the standpoint of fear. Don't defend "LIFE" till you die attack it! • Violence is the weakest form of anger expression. Nonso Kingsley Nwosu

Bro: Sue, Please give me a chance. I really do love you. I know this is God's will. I want this to happen so much. Please stop shutting me out. Sis : Please , Mike leave me alone. I said I am not interested. Stop bordering me. Have I not been through enough? I want to be by myself right now. I know you love me, but I hate you, all of you, for what my Ex did to me, I hate all men.. Bro: (crying) Please give me a chance to show you that all men are not the same. I love you so much, it hurts. Please, why are you punishing me for a crime another committed? He was wrong to have treated you that way. Let me right his wrong. Sis: (crying) Please don't let the door hit you on your way out. Sis thinki ng : (I know I love him, we could have been a happy couple, but, no way. That would involve forgiving John, I won't let that happen, no way, after all he did to me. I will never forgive him, I hate all men. They will pay for my hurt, all of them). Bro finally meets another Sis wh...

Getting into marriage without planning and discussing your expectations about the marriage is like flagging down a taxi and not knowing why or where you want it to take you. I'm I going to work after marriage or be a full time house wife?, how many kids?, yes to family planning or not?, whose in charge of what?, sleep in different bedrooms or same bedroom?, etcetera. I once encountered a married lady who after marriage was taking contraceptives without her husbands knowledge because she didn't want kids immediately, while he wanted kids. I asked her, "what exactly did you guys discuss during courtship? You mean to tell me that you guys didn't discuss children and when to start having them?". She couldn't answer me. Some folks spend their courtship days planning wedding (a day's event) without even planning for their marriage (which is a life time event). Don't make that mistake! A lady who was a nurse by profession married a man without discussing s...

To learn, unlearn and relearn is a great path to personal growth. The room was packed with "hungry folks" as the music played and men reminiscent through their yonder days. Step by step, the mind travelled back to where it all began. The events that shaped us unveiled. We reached out to the files, dusted them and gave a positive meaning to every snap shot captured. You see, nobody is really bad, people just do bad things. Ted Bundy was known to all who knew him as a charming man. He was a volunteer at a suicide hotline and a college graduate. However, he was executed for the murder of 40 women in the '80s. Poland's famous serial killer Karl Denke was an active member of his community and even was an organist in church. Hmmm!!! People do what they do because of what they have been exposed to. People do the best they can with what they know. When you see people behave the way they do, be rest assured that the innocent mind has captured some snap shots and has giv...

"Being able to think on your feet is the result of training and discipline. You can't sprint unless you have built up the strength to do so. Building the stamina is up to you. If you don't work at it, it's not going to happen by wishful thinking. You have to dedicate yourself to it everyday. In other words, set a goal and work toward it. Athletes know that no one else can do the training for them, and business people should have the same discipline. You have to be self reliant." From Donald J . Trump's Think like a Champion .

"Oh Lord, I will hold tight to my love and not let go. I will throw away all the cruel words flung at me. I will cast away anger and hurt and despair. I won't think on the false accusations, the slights, the long silences, and the rejection. I will think about You." (Francine Rivers) This is exactly my prayer. I don't want to be bitter Akuma Solomon

The dichotomy that exists amongst a wise person and a completely ignorant and immature person is seen in the way both handle disagreements or issues with others. If the later has an issue with you, instead of confronting you with the issue, such may rather seeks out those around you and tell your faults to them instead of, to you in order to garner cheap sympathy to themselves and also to tarnish your reputation. Well, if you have such persons around you, just keep accellerating higher than them by not succumbing to their mediocre level. Instead keep repaying the evil with GOOD. Ukeme Mandy

If you received Salvation because of fear for hell, then that's not Real Salvation. Salvation is not based on fear, but on faith that comes from love for Christ's finished work on the cross. Step up, start loving Jesus Christ to experience the true essence of salvation. Love for Jesus exposes and reveals the real purpose of salvation. You can't walk in certain provisions of salvation if yours is still based on fear. Raphael Donanu

I actually have for a while now, observed a trend that occurs in our churches. Had a chat with a friend a while back, and when she brought up the issue, it occurred to me that I had once planned to make a post on it, and well, here it is. Have you ever observed that in churches, the young men tend to go out of their parishes or missions entirely when it's time to pick a spouse? Most of the weddings I've attended were between the young man and a lady from a different mission (in the case of same mission, different parishes). The question for the brothers in our local parishes is this: Aren't they seeing the sisters or the sisters aren't virtuous ladies? Abi the Holy Spirit doesn't reveal them to the brothers? Several ladies have actually asked me: "Don't the brothers see us?", "Are we not good enough?", "Must they go out to pick wives?". Have you ever wondered this?, Has someone ever asked you such? If yes, what do you think coul...

Life is full of ups and downs. When we fall, we are tempted not to get up because of the uncertainties we don't want to confront. When we stay down, we don't accomplish anything, and we feel worse. But when clean our eyes, dust ourselves up, get up and follow the light or hope, no matter how small it is, we'll surely feel better and fulfilled. Trust me. So I leave you with two choices: - Stay down, casted and blame those that hurt you, thereby giving them control over your life. - Leave it all behind, learn from your mistakes, look forward and find happiness. Stay Positive!