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Yesterday night (the night before the day this was written), I was having a nap, at the NIFES UNIPORT President's office, when Brother Daniel came to me and said: “Sir, we have a new person, he is stranded. And he needs a place to lodge for the night”. I was tired. I told him; “See to it that he finds rest”. Then he replied me: “he is a Muslim”. I said to him again; “that is not a problem. Just ask him basic information and tell him the etiquette of the secretariat. Also do a security check”. This is the normal pocedure for any one who comes around, because many have come in such way and at midnight they stole something. Then, I zoomed, off to sleep. This morning (on the day this was written), at 4.25 AM, when we do have our normal devotion, we had a full house. There were several persons who have not been allocated a hostel space, some also who are coming to UNIPORT for the first time and needed to find a place to rest. And some who are not bothered...

While I frown vehemently at the manner and the open attitudinal disposition that is on the increase regarding issues pertaining to religion, faith and politics, I think there is a huge lesson there for all of us. The difference between a developing country and a so called "Developed one" is simple – TRANSFORMATION. This very all important process borders from generation of ideas down to the productizing of the same, alongside it's sustainability. Most developing countries have issues with either of the three stages. In fact, one of the definitions I read sometime ago on third world Country has it that: "It is when the said country does not have the capacity to manage its resources from the raw primary stage to the sophisticated processed stage". So here is the gist. I have read over 120 books on Transformation alone whether mental, spiritual, political, social or business, including doing a several cover to cover on the best of them all ...

When eagles are silent, parrots begin to chatter (Winston Churchill) If you would convince a man that he does wrong, do right. But do not care to convince him. Men will believe what they see. Let them see (Henry David Thoreau) Leadership is not about titles, positions, or flow charts. It is about one life influencing another (John C. Maxwell) Always remember, Son, the best boss is the one who bosses the least. Whether it's cattle, or horses, or men; the least government is the best government (Ralph Moody) We're here for a reason. I believe a bit of the reason is to throw little torches out to lead people through the dark (Whoopi Goldberg) You get in life what you have the courage to ask for (Nancy D. Solomon)

One day Jesus Christ asked his disciples a question: "Whom do Men say that I am?" and after He listened to their replies. He asked them again, "BUT who do you say I am?" (KJV) I like the way NIV puts it, it says; "BUT WHAT ABOUT YOU, who do you say I am?" ------- People of God, it doesn't matter what people are saying about you, about your past or future, about what you can or cannot do; they are entitled to their opinions. What matters, the crux of the matter is: "What do you say about yourself".. They will say all manner of things. People will always talk. They will say that you don't deserve the life you want, that you are black, that you are fat, that you are ugly, that you are poor, that you have no connection, that you are a woman, that you can't get it done, that you are dull, that you didn't go to college, a nobody, or as they tell me, that you are single... Having heard all they have said abou...

By: Uchenna Ilo You can delay but don't You ever quit. Keep trying your best and keep moving forward. Make sure you are putting in your best. The reward comes at end, not in the beginning. As You work, try to figure out and create your own path. Pay attention to the beauty that surrounds You. Feel the moment and breathe in the awesomeness of life. We are here to improve the human condition in any way we can. Don't give up. If only You knew how much good things lay ahead of your struggles, You won't complain of the grind. The last lap is always the hardest but those who endure will witness the magic of the universe.

You probably may have tried different exploits to get something to work or done but it seem to be infeasible. It gets worse when it drains you away and there is no strength left to give it just one more push. This is the break point – that moment when all you need is just a slight push but your strength is failing you. If your body is weak, your mind cannot afford to be weak. Your mind controls your body. If your will to Succeed in anything is low, there is a chance that you cannot win, for the desire to win and see the end of that, has to be and must be greater than the fear which comes when you doubt yourself or what you can do. Persevere and let the end game drive your desire to stand up and give it that final push that makes all the difference... ©Mindset ~Trippleff By: Tripple Friddle Frizzle Tff

Don’t build your castle on anyone’s talk; or you build a castle in the air…. Talk is cheap and anyone can afford it... even a pauper. I read through a timeline here a while ago and I saw series of “I've missed you, where have you been?” posts. I smiled as I read through. In my mind, I asked, “Have you tried getting in touch with this person you claim to miss, beyond posting ‘I miss you’ on their Facebook timeline?’ It reminded me of lots of comments I have come across where people would ask a certain writer to go write their book, start a blog and begin a blog series, release their anthology etcetera, because they “…just write so well”. They tell a singer, “When will you release your album? I can’t wait!” Someone graduates and they begin to ask them with ‘concern’, "What are you still doing? Your mates are married! You must marry too; and make sure you invite me and my husband and the children." They ask you, “Ahn, Ahn, David does not have a y...

All men were created equally; it's our personal efforts and convictions that makes us outstanding. Over the years, I'm yet to meet a man with 2 heads, neither have I met any with 4 brains. Our equality is not just factual but glaringly conspicuous. We all are like the Nigeria Legal Tender. Each of us is given unrivaled chance to define ourselves. Please show me the difference in the following: N1000 – One thousand naira N100.0 – One hundred naira N10.00 – Ten naira If you ask me; I only see figures. The differences lies in where you put your dot. We all have the potentials to be a thousand naira note. Imagine someone places his/her dot two places to the left of a thousand naira. What do you have? N10. Now tell me how valuable N10 naira is in this era of chain they call change. It's as useless as the K in (K)nife. You have the power to determine who you want to be, where you want to get to and the things you want to achieve in life. You have th...

They tell you hate is a strong emotion, perhaps fiercer than love. But they leave out the crucial details. Like, how it is also the deadliest disease in existence, eating away at your innards until what's left is an empty, deformed shell. And how, unlike its polar opposite whose object of affection gets to enjoy (or endure) the fruits of whatever intense passion it projects, the cross is all yours to bear. I hated once. She'd been a loved one, despite the imperfections on both our parts. It wasn't the first betrayal I'd experienced in friendship neither was it the most dramatic. But for some reason, this one cut the deepest. In no time, the hurt transformed into something darker. We still spoke but inside, I was black ice. With each smile I sent her way, the rage brewing behind my eyes got stronger. Sometimes, my body temperature bespoke what I felt. I'd be burning hot with cold hands. I realized I was afraid of me. Of what I was becoming. You can...

The quotes is credited to Ndubueze Endie Umunna. The Quotes: • The most important element in business Success is sales. Nothing happens until a sale takes place. • If you are not making sales, that is, if people are not exchanging your product for cash, you are not in business. • Being bankrupt and being broke are not the same thing. Let there be light! • Your customers do not care how much you know until they know how much you care. • The first rule of building a product is : "Do not build a product; Solve a problem". • Nigerian startups don't die. They just evaporate. The reason is because they extol enthusiasm about the idea over execution! • It doesn't matter how much you spend in advertising a bad product. It can never become successful! Ndubueze Endie Umunna

Establish your own uniqueness, you're not like everybody else. Understand that, just because everybody is doing it or the fact that it's trending does not validate your participation in it. You are different! Let's take a moment and ask ourselves, "If I become like everybody, who will become like me?" Well the answer is simple. Nobody!!!! The truth about trying to become someone else is first of all we'll loose our own identity, our uniqueness and values. Secondly, we wouldn't even find fulfilment in our newly elected personality. But most importantly, we would loose focus of where we really are going to in the course of identity mismatch. Learn to take your stands even though it means standing alone. Imagine what it would look like if the eagle wants to take the attributes of the pigeon or how it would be if the lion wants to start flying. Can you imagine? It's impossible! It is not their identity! Every sense of respect, value or whatever sta...

When life rejects you as a waste of lemon, shake off the tag and GROW up into a lemonade! I grew up to my early teenage in Ilorin, Kwara state, Nigeria and countless times, I saw my mum poured cooking waste water containing tomato and vegetable seeds into a corner of our backyard through the kitchen window. Also, I grew up always seeing some tomato and vegetable plants growing at the corners of our unused backyard turned dumping site for kitchen waste and I always wondered who planted them and in fact, I also always thought they were unhealthy vegetables since they grow on a mere dirty, sometimes stinking waste-dumping site. One beautiful Sunday evening, returning back from our church's evening service, we were all famished and mum was wondering what to cook. Lo and behold, she went to the backyard (God bless mothers) and came back with some very green and massively leafy vegetables. Before you say Jack's not hot (sorry, Jack Robinson), the aroma of a sweet efo riro (a popul...

The opportunity may be wrapped in a problem. Take a closer look, don't discard the idea because the process seem rocky. Don't say goodbye because it's getting late. Don't throw in the towel because of the circumstance. I heard a tale about two shoe salesmen who travelled to a third world country in search of new business opportunities. One man calls his wife the moment he lands, telling her, “Honey, I’m coming back home. There’s no hope here. Nobody here is wearing shoes, so there’s no one to sell to." He boards the next flight home. The second man calls his wife and says, “Honey, you wouldn’t believe what I found here. There is so much opportunity. No one here is wearing shoes. I can sell to the whole country!” It's all about perspective, one man sees a situation and calls it a problem, another sees it and calls it an opportunity. By: Ekwe Chijioke

Your Village people won't allow you to succeed in 2018. The only reason you didn't achieve some of your goals last year was because your VILLAGE people are hardworking! They are the ones holding you back! The people in your village are working against you, they've created a culture that is influencing the way you function. The funny thing is, you are giving them the permission to. Don't you know that no one or nothing can influence you until you give them(it) the permission to? What pricks me is that you have been aware of these for a very long time and you still give it the permission to influence you. What if I tell you I know these village people of yours? O yes! I know them! They are your BELIEF SYSTEM, YOUR EXPERIENCE, HABITS AND YOUR MINDSET! Whoever or whatever controls your mindset controls you and in this situation what controls you are your SELF LIMITING BELIEFS AND YOUR SELF LIMITING EXPERIENCE! You function based on your self limiting beliefs, habit...

Many people expect life to be easy. Even as a Christian, there is no crown without a cross. Many people wish they can just wish suffering away, deny it exists or drink it away. Suffering is how the spirit of man grows, how it learns to discipline itself from the incessant demands of the wayward flesh. Suffering people are growing people. But does that mean we should desire suffering? No, we should not desire suffering but neither should we resist it. Because what we resist persists. We should not try to hide from suffering. Like a bully, we stand up to it, pull it in the beard and find out that it was just an attachment meant to scare us. Suffering is not bad in itself and will only cease when you have learned your lesson from it. Adversity is the road map to prosperity just as failure is the step stones to Success. Shakespeare wrote "Sweet are the uses of adversity, which like the toad, ugly and venomous, wears yet a pre-jewel in its head." If you want to increase y...

Few minutes ago (on the day this was written), a lady accosted me at a shopping mall (Market square at Trans-Amadi). We had an interesting conversation even though we just met. She asked for my contact address.... She was like.. "Since you stay around this axis...may I know your place? So I could visit tomorrow? She asked for my number, I requested to take hers instead and promised to give her a call tonight (I knew where it was all heading) Was she pretty? Of course she was my spec. Will I call her? Absolutely not! Why? She wasn't in the plan this year. There's no space for distractions. Life is all about priorities. If everything is important, then nothing is important. Some will say, 'Eh..what if she doesn't have any intentions... She just want to be friends' I hear! Eliminate every possibility of 'What ifs'. Young guys and ladies in our 20s. This is the only time we are permitted to be selfish with our time so that when we are in our 40s, ...

Hello Friends, The Love and Positivity Initiative (LPI) has been Great! Some days ago (Tuesday, the 16th of January, to be precise), I got an idea which I shared with the members of the LPI WhatsApp Group. I was inspired to write four Positivity Quotes which I'll share here. The idea is about uploading Five Positivity Quotes as part of one's WhatsApp status, one each on each of the five working days of the week. This will be repeated every week, probably for a couple of months. The Personal benefit of this, is that one's subconcious mind will take in those positive words every morning, and those words will have positive control over one's mindset, then words, actions, character and attitude. At the same time, one is inspiring his/her friends who read the statuses, and with time, a positive impact is made on the mindset of the readers, which would manifest on their attitude. It's all about creating a ripple effect of Positivity, and it can only start with us an...

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The Relationship Quotes today, is credited to Musa Gift. Musa Gift is a popular contributor on this library. He's a Relationship Coach. The Quotes: • It is better to be Single and Praying to be Married than Married and Praying to be Single. DON'T BE IN A HURRY! • Your Love for them is not enough to finance the Building of a Successful Relationship. It takes two to make it work. DON'T FORCE IT! • God's intention for you is not a life time Courtship, but a life time Marriage. Don't settle in a Relationship that takes everything from You and doesn't give You Commitment. God doesn't need You to date for seven years before He says You can marry them. • Without Communication, there is no Relationship. Without Respect, there is no Love. And without Trust, there is no reason to do it! • Real Men don't express interest if they are not interested. You don't need to play with a lady's heart/emotions to prove yourself. • When they tell you: "Yo...

The WORD Quotes today, is credited to Josiah Fidelis. The Quotes: • FASTING without PURPOSE is simply STARVING on PURPOSE. • You can't treat others like a PINCH OF SALT and expect to be carried like a BAG OF RICE! VALUE IS RECIPROCAL! • GRACE is a divine ability to WORK and not a license to be LAZY!!! • Your REPUTATION is how people see You, but your INTEGRITY is how God sees You! Place the right priority! INTEGRITY first! • It's not enough to be sharing all the RHEMA! We can preach a better MESSAGE with our LIFE THAN OUR MOUTH! • What is GREATNESS? Greatness is not FAME, or a million followers, or thousands of likes. Greatness is FULFILLING PURPOSE! Josiah Fidelis